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You Cannot “Let Go” of Abuse That Is Still Ongoing:

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You Cannot “Let Go” of Abuse That Is Still Ongoing I am writing this as a factual account of my own lived experience. I am continuing to experience ongoing ostracism, exclusion, and hostile treatment within my town, involving individuals who hold positions of influence through local media, charities, and the town council. These experiences are the reason I am unable to simply “move on” or “let go”. I have raised concerns with Great Aycliffe Town Council . However, due to the conduct of several councillors and the ongoing involvement of individuals whose actions have caused me harm, I no longer feel safe or aligned attending council meetings. This is a personal safeguarding decision. I have experienced sustained exclusion from community platforms and representation. Since Paul Howarth took over Newton Press , my community and charity work has no longer been published or acknowledged. This is a decision he is entitled to make, but the impact has been exclusionary and has occurred al...
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Why it's not an equal playing field:

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"What's wrong with society isn't just abusers, it's those that are indoctrinated with toxic ideals that ENABLE the abusers" What’s wrong with society isn’t just abusers — it’s the toxic ideals that enable them. I keep seeing comments aimed at girls and women saying “respect is mutual” as if we all exist on equal ground. We don’t. That argument deliberately ignores reality. In many countries, girls have no legal rights at all. They are not safe in hospitals, not safe in schools, not safe within systems meant to protect them. They are abused by teachers, doctors, police officers, relatives — the very people society tells them to trust. Disabled girls and women are often forced onto contraception, not for their autonomy or wellbeing, but because male violence is so normalised that the responsibility is placed on victims instead of perpetrators. And this isn’t rare. It’s systemic. Nine-year-old girls are being married off and dying from internal bleeding. Female genit...
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Proud:

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 #proud  I’m so proud of those of us here who still recognise the importance of challenging and correcting harmful stigmas. ❤️ I’m proud of every one of you I see choosing to build others up, choosing kindness over hostility, help over judgement, and solidarity over division — because none of this is easy for us. We are worthy of support. ❤️ I’m also proud of those who, when a mirror is held up, choose accountability and growth. We are always one evolution away from becoming better versions of ourselves — and that choice is in our hands. When I get things wrong, I face it head on and I fix it. Yes, even when others want to fixate on it. I don’t change for optics — I change for me, because the people I support deserve my best. And sometimes, even the hardest lessons turn out to be blessings. 🙏🏻 I hope those of you who remain kind in difficult times stick around. We need more good than bad, and I am so tired of the bad. You can rest assured — I won’t be adding to it. 💯❤️ Sara...
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Don't Look Away - Book

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Change does not begin with grand gestures. It begins with noticing what sits just outside the frame — the harm, the gaps, the people still waiting to be helped while attention is pulled elsewhere. We all like to believe we would do more if only we could. But in reality, there is always something we can do. Support a cause that aligns with your values. Lend your name, your voice, your time. Stand with others instead of assuming the worst and turning away. In the UK, people still need help — urgently. And while systems continue to fail, small acts of collective support remain one of the few things that still move the needle. Yet too often, energy is wasted on negativity, assumptions, and criticism that leads nowhere. It takes far less effort to dismiss than it does to act — but only one of those creates real change. I spend much of my life fighting systemic battles: ableism, discrimination, ostracism, abuse. I do this not as an observer, but as a survivor. And I can say this with certain...
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Happy New Year

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Happy New Year everyone! Here's a video recap from 2025 (available to play at the bottom of this blog thanks to YouTube) and I hope we all smash 2026! In the best ways possible of course! Sarah ❤️ ~ Happy New Year ~ Alt text: A festive New Year collage on a dark background with a black and gold “Happy New Year” banner at the top, finished with a red bow. Below is a grid of photos showing cosy celebrations at home. Many images feature a person with long pink hair wearing a red beret and glasses, smiling, posing playfully, and making hand gestures in selfies. They appear with friends and a partner in relaxed, joyful moments. Several photos show a decorated Christmas tree with colourful lights and ornaments, a living room setup with TV and games, and a wall clock approaching midnight. A strip of Polaroid-style photos in the centre captures candid poses and group selfies. The overall mood is warm, intimate, and celebratory, marking the transition into the New Year. The handle “@KawaiiD...
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Why choice is not optional:

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Autonomy, Trauma, and Neurodivergence: Why Choice Is Not Optional Autonomy is often discussed as a personal preference or a lifestyle value, but for trauma survivors and neurodivergent people it is far more than that. It is a clinical, psychological, and ethical necessity. Research across trauma studies, neuroscience, and disability scholarship consistently shows that a sense of control over one’s body, environment, and decisions is central to nervous system regulation, mental wellbeing, and long‑term recovery. Without autonomy, even well‑intentioned support can unintentionally cause harm. This article explores why freedom of choice is so critical for trauma‑affected and neurodivergent individuals, how the loss of agency impacts the nervous system, and why respecting autonomy is a core principle of trauma‑informed and neurodiversity‑affirming practice. It also draws on the social model of disability, which recognises that many of the barriers disabled and neurodivergent people face are...
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A Thank You as the Year Closes:

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A Thank You as the Year Closes ❤️ As we celebrate Christmas and gently close the door on 2025, I want to take a moment to say a huge, heartfelt thank you to my spirit tribe, my community, and my colleagues. This year has been one of growth, challenge, and deep connection. I’m incredibly grateful to everyone I’ve worked alongside, to those who trusted me and allowed me the opportunity to support them, and to all the people I’ve met along the way through my advocacy and charity work. I also want to say a special thank you to those in the film and movie industry who welcomed me in and shared some truly great adventures with me this year. The creativity, collaboration, and moments behind the scenes have been a real joy and a reminder of why storytelling matters. Every conversation, shared moment, and act of kindness has mattered more than you probably realise. None of this work exists in isolation — it’s built through community, compassion, and mutual respect. Thank you for walking parts o...
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