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The Daisy:

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A daisy I picked today unexpectedly took me straight back to a moment in the past. My son was about 2½ years old, wearing his little Kermit backpack. He stopped playing football with his dad to very "secretly" (and very obviously!) bring a daisy over to his mam. At the time, I had pink hair and was using my wheelchair. What I didn't know then was that this would be our last ordinary day before the hospital appointments started and before his cancer diagnosis changed our lives. Today, holding this daisy, I could feel the sunshine again. The wind. I could see him in his little blue top with his short hair, proudly handing me a flower and telling me he loved me. He's in remission now, healthy, happy, and somehow taller than me. But for a moment today, I got to step back into that memory and hold it again. Some flowers are just flowers. Others are time machines. πŸŒΌπŸ’› Sarah Wingfield  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #ChildhoodMemories #CancerSurvivor #Remission #MotherAndSon #DaisyMe...

Stalking Awareness:

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  Stalking Awareness: Stalking is not always someone hiding in bushes or following a person down the street. Sometimes it looks like: • Repeated unwanted contact • Constant monitoring of someone's online activity • Creating new accounts after being blocked • Repeatedly discussing someone in groups, forums, or chats • Turning up unexpectedly where someone is known to be • Tracking routines, habits, or movements • Sending unwanted gifts or messages • Encouraging others to contact or watch someone • Using intimidation, fear, or obsession to maintain contact What separates stalking from normal interaction is that the contact is unwanted, persistent, and causes distress, fear, or alarm. Many victims spend months or even years questioning themselves before realising what they are experiencing is not normal behaviour. If someone asks for no contact, blocks communication, or clearly withdraws consent for interaction, those boundaries should be respected. Awareness matters because stalking ...

Understanding the core fundamentals of Abuse:

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Understanding the core fundamentals of Abuse: no no An educational presentation: Abuse can occur right under your nose and you may not even realise that what you are witnessing - or experiencing - is abuse. Not all abuse is physical. Sometimes it looks like: - Manipulation - Intimidation - Humiliation - Gaslighting - Coercive control - Financial restriction - Isolation - Online harassment - Fear - Threats - Exploitation - Psychological harm Many forms of abuse become normalised over time, which is why awareness and education are so important. As part of my Level 2 Understanding Domestic Abuse studies, I created this educational awareness guide exploring the many different forms abuse can take and the long-term impact it can have on individuals, families and communities. This presentation was created to encourage: - Awareness - Compassion - Safeguarding - Education - Healthier communities - Survivor support We need more people choosing to be helpful instead of harmful. Abuse thrives in ...

When “Accountability” Becomes Abuse - My Experience With Online Harassment Campaigns:

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When “Accountability” Becomes Abuse - My Experience With Online Harassment Campaigns: Over the past few days I’ve experienced what I genuinely believe to be targeted online abuse and coordinated harassment. People often think abuse only counts when it is physical, but abuse can also be psychological, social, reputational, emotional, and digital. What I have experienced includes: - Public humiliation and mass pile-ons. - False allegations being repeated as fact without evidence. - Encouragement of mass-reporting campaigns against my pages and work. - Attempts to isolate me socially and professionally by tagging organisations and community spaces I support. - Character assassination and reputational harm. - Gaslighting and repeated attempts to invalidate my lived experiences. - Mockery of my trauma responses and disability. - Ableist language and attacks against me for using accessibility tools like AI. - Attempts to portray me as mentally unstable for defending myself. - Threats involvi...

Chances:

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We give people more chances than they need, and more explanations than they deserve - because our intention is resolution. The problem is, not everyone shares that intention. Some people will take your words, twist them, and repurpose them into something they can use to justify their behaviour.  Not because they misunderstood you - but because their goal was never understanding.  It was harm. Once you’ve seen it, you can’t unsee it. Look at the patterns:  – Who rallies others instead of resolving things directly. – Who hides public attacks behind the word “accountability”. – Who thrives in group pile-ons and audience validation. That’s not growth. That’s performance. And the moment they realise you see them clearly? That’s when it escalates. The truth is, I gave chances. I communicated. I clarified. And now I’m choosing distance - not because I don’t care, but because I care enough about my peace not to stay around energy like that. For those of us with CPTSD, this hits d...

Living in and around Darlington:

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Hi everyone, Join the group here: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Dvxh1TG6z/ I wanted to let you all know that I’ve now taken over the Living in Darlington group. Moving forward, this space will be run with fairness, transparency, and respect for everyone in the community. Different views are welcome here — as long as they’re shared respectfully and without personal attacks. This group is about Darlington, the people in it, and real conversations that matter. It’s not about bias, control, or silencing voices. As someone who has always been an advocate first, that won’t change.  I believe in open discussion, evidence-based conversations, and making sure people feel heard — not shut down. There will be clear boundaries:  – No harassment or targeting – No misinformation presented as fact – No abuse towards other members Aside from that, you’re free to speak, share, and engage. Let’s build this into something positive for the whole community. — Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Independe...

Unity in Community:

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Unity in Community: I stand by this, always. ❤️ Not everyone will understand your intentions—and that’s okay. What matters is what you consistently do. We all have a responsibility in how we show up, what we say, and what we put out into the world. Choose to uplift. Choose to support. Choose to build something better. Because we are stronger together — unity in community always. — Sarah Wingfield ❤️ KawaiiDollDecora.uk #StrongerTogether #UnityInCommunity #DisabilityAdvocate #PositiveImpact #KawaiiDollDecora Alt Text: A soft pink aesthetic quote graphic with bows and floral elements. At the top, “Sarah Wingfield – Actress | Author | Advocate” and “KawaiiDollDecora.uk” are displayed in a bright pink neon-style font. The main quote appears in white text over a muted grey overlay: “I’m someone who aims to help, and my actions will always show that — even when people don’t believe my words.” A red heart icon separates the sections. Below, the message continues about responsibility, positivi...