PGP / SPD My story:

  Being Different - Neurodivergent and Observant: There’s something I’ve noticed, especially as someone who is neurodivergent. We often see the patterns others don’t. We see people venting, sharing, asking for advice, being supported, being included… and we learn from that. We take it as a cue for how connection works. So when we show up in those same ways — open, honest, seeking support or offering it — we expect the same response. But instead, we’re treated like a problem. And that disconnect is confusing, because the behaviour isn’t different — the reaction is. It highlights something deeper. Support, for some people, is conditional. It’s given to those they relate to. Those they understand. Those who fit their comfort zone. But true support — real support — is inclusive. It doesn’t pick and choose based on who is easiest to empathise with. Because the truth is, the people who show up differently, who communicate differently, who might not follow the same unspoken social rules… ...

What I’m Learning About Boundaries (And The Times I Still Slip) Boundaries are one of those things that sound simple when you say them out loud, but living them is something else entirely. I’m learning that maintaining boundaries isn’t about getting it right every time, it’s about catching yourself when you don’t. Because I do slip. I still get roped into replies, I still find myself trying to explain, trying to get people to understand, trying to bring facts into conversations that were never about facts in the first place. And that’s where I have to pause and check myself, because the reality is you can’t reason with the unreasonable. Some people are committed to misunderstanding you, committed to twisting things, committed to getting a reaction, and no amount of calm explanation is going to change that. That’s been one of the hardest lessons for me, because I care. I care about truth, I care about fairness, I care about people seeing what actually happened, and that part of me will ...

When Boundaries Expose the Truth About Freelance Work There’s a pattern in freelancing that people don’t like to admit exists. Everything starts off clean—clear agreement, defined work, mutual understanding. You show up professionally, you deliver what was asked, and because you take pride in what you do, you often give more than the bare minimum. And then it shifts. The work expands, but the agreement doesn’t. What was agreed becomes stretched into “just one more thing,” then another, then another—until you’re no longer delivering a project, you’re absorbing expectations that were never part of the deal. Not formally. Not financially. Just quietly added, as if your time is flexible but your boundaries aren’t supposed to be. And that’s the part people don’t say out loud: some don’t see freelancers as professionals with structure—they see them as people they can keep pulling from. Until you stop them. Because the moment you reinforce the original agreement, the moment you say, this fall...

The End of Dead Dollz — When “Support” Turns Into Sabotage: I’m going to be clear and factual about my involvement with Dead Dollz, as there has been a shift in narrative that doesn’t reflect what actually took place. I did not become involved casually. I paid to step in and support the group at a time when the girls were experiencing abuse and the situation required stabilising. Alongside that financial investment, I contributed my time, energy, and professional experience to support, promote, and help develop the brand in a constructive way. This included behind-the-scenes work such as promotion, interviews, written content, and actively working to reduce the level of external negativity the group was receiving. My involvement was based on good faith and a clear intention to support growth and protect those within the group. However, the response I received did not reflect that. Communication became unprofessional, including voice messages delivered in a tone that was dismissive and ...

Message of the Day: Don’t confuse reputation with character — they are not the same thing. Some of the most toxic people move through life with glowing reputations, carefully curated, polished, and protected. But behind that image, their character tells a very different story. They know how to charm, how to influence, how to control perception. They maintain a façade so well that people rarely question it, and those around them often stay unaware of who they truly are. Meanwhile, the people with genuine hearts — the ones who move with kindness, honesty, and good intentions — don’t always get the same treatment. They don’t play games. They don’t manipulate narratives. They don’t perform for approval. And because of that, they’re often misunderstood, misrepresented, or even painted as the problem by those who rely on control and illusion. But truth doesn’t live in appearances, just like chronic pain doesn't have a face.  Character is what you do when there’s nothing to gain, and some...

“They caught me on a pain flare day and still had to write an article about me anyway 😂💅 Because that’s the reality — disabled creators don’t wait for perfect days… we build through the hard ones. Grateful for the support, the growth, and everything I’m still creating even on my worst days. This is what resilience actually looks like. 💖✨ Still on my journey to becoming a sole trader — and I’m not stopping anytime soon. Sarah Wingfield ❤️ Independent Disability Advocate KawaiiDollDecora.uk #disabilityinclusion #strongertogether #disabledcreator #smallbusinessuk #resilience” Alt text 🌸 “A smiling woman with glasses and a headband sits holding digital art equipment boxes including a drawing tablet and stylus. She has a walking stick beside her and is dressed in colourful patterned clothing. The image appears candid and natural, highlighting her as a disabled artist receiving support to grow her business.” https://www.livin.co.uk/latest/news/nhc-bursary-helps-local-artist-to-grow-her-b...