PGP / SPD My story:

Hi everyone, Join the group here: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1Dvxh1TG6z/ I wanted to let you all know that I’ve now taken over the Living in Darlington group. Moving forward, this space will be run with fairness, transparency, and respect for everyone in the community. Different views are welcome here — as long as they’re shared respectfully and without personal attacks. This group is about Darlington, the people in it, and real conversations that matter. It’s not about bias, control, or silencing voices. As someone who has always been an advocate first, that won’t change.  I believe in open discussion, evidence-based conversations, and making sure people feel heard — not shut down. There will be clear boundaries:  – No harassment or targeting – No misinformation presented as fact – No abuse towards other members Aside from that, you’re free to speak, share, and engage. Let’s build this into something positive for the whole community. — Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Independe...

Unity in Community: I stand by this, always. ❤️ Not everyone will understand your intentions—and that’s okay. What matters is what you consistently do. We all have a responsibility in how we show up, what we say, and what we put out into the world. Choose to uplift. Choose to support. Choose to build something better. Because we are stronger together — unity in community always. — Sarah Wingfield ❤️ KawaiiDollDecora.uk #StrongerTogether #UnityInCommunity #DisabilityAdvocate #PositiveImpact #KawaiiDollDecora Alt Text: A soft pink aesthetic quote graphic with bows and floral elements. At the top, “Sarah Wingfield – Actress | Author | Advocate” and “KawaiiDollDecora.uk” are displayed in a bright pink neon-style font. The main quote appears in white text over a muted grey overlay: “I’m someone who aims to help, and my actions will always show that — even when people don’t believe my words.” A red heart icon separates the sections. Below, the message continues about responsibility, positivi...

Let’s Talk Safety in the Film Industry: The film industry can be an incredible space — creativity, collaboration, storytelling — all coming together to create something meaningful. It’s where ideas come to life and voices are amplified. But like any industry, it isn’t without its risks. And the truth is, recognising those risks early doesn’t just protect your career — it protects your wellbeing too. One of the clearest warning signs is a lack of transparency. When a production is vague about contracts, payment, roles, or expectations, that isn’t “creative freedom” — it’s uncertainty being normalised. You should always know exactly what you’re agreeing to, how you’ll be credited, and whether you’ll be paid. If those conversations are avoided, deflected, or rushed past, it’s worth asking why. Pressure is another red flag that often gets overlooked. Opportunities in this industry can feel rare, so when someone says “decide now or lose it”, it can be difficult to pause. But urgency like th...

From Survival to Advocacy: I Didn’t Wait to Be Seen — I Built Something That Couldn’t Be Ignored There was a time where I wasn’t seen. Not properly. Not fully. Not in a way that felt human. I existed in spaces that weren’t built for me, trying to fit into narratives that never included people like me in the first place. And when you live like that long enough, you start to question your own existence. Your voice. Your worth. You wonder if maybe you’re just… too much. Or not enough. Or simply invisible. But the truth is — I was never invisible. I was just unheard. And there’s a difference. I didn’t wake up one day confident, empowered, or “successful”. I built this. Slowly. Messily. Painfully at times. Through trauma. Through being dismissed. Through being misunderstood. Through navigating systems that were never designed to support me — as a disabled woman, as someone with lived experience, as someone who refused to stay quiet. And somewhere in that process, I realised something import...

Disability Support needs to be Stronger in the community: Disability comes in all shapes, sizes, forms, and ages. So why are disabled people still being mistreated—especially when they are already fighting every single day just to live and survive? This is even more evident within our own local communities. 👈🏻👈🏻👈🏻 Too often, the moment a disabled person becomes successful in any way, support disappears and is replaced with criticism, judgement, or backlash!! It’s getting ridiculous. I recently shared my music online—something I create as part of my own mental health support and to help others—and I faced backlash for it. Despite being an admin, having consent to post, and checking beforehand, people still chose negativity over support. It isn’t hard to uplift your community. Yet time and time again, people would rather criticise than encourage. What shocked me most was that one of the individuals involved had even attended a PIP protest—someone who should understand the importanc...

Build relationships with people who will mention your name when opportunities arise. ✨ Success isn’t just about what you know — it’s also about the connections you nurture along the way. Support people, uplift others, and surround yourself with those who celebrate your growth and speak your name in rooms you haven’t entered yet. “We uplift here, we support here, we value people here and we're stronger together.” — Sarah Wingfield ❤️ Independent Disability Advocate+ KawaiiDollDecora.uk #communitysupport #strongertogether #networking #supporteachother #kawaiiaesthetic Alt text: Square pink kawaii-style image featuring a glowing neon quote sign on a clear panel against a soft pink textured wall. The quote reads: “Build relationships with people who will mention your name when opportunities arise.” A bright pink heart appears above the sign. Decorative elements include a plush pink teddy bear at the top corner, hanging heart charms on the right, a pastel cupcake ornament with sprinkles...

Too many people hate online — and it’s worth remembering this: Projections are not facts. They are not informed perspectives. They are fragments of someone else’s unresolved pain, fear, or insecurity, thrown outward. We don’t exist to absorb that damage. Most of us are here to help, to contribute, to make things a little safer or kinder for someone else — and that does matter. Quietly. Consistently. Even when strangers try to drown it out with noise. Take the hate if you must — but don’t carry it. Hold a mirror up to poor behaviour without becoming it. Name harm without internalising it. And always remember this truth: It is their responsibility to fix themselves. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. You are not required to shrink, soften, or explain your humanity to be treated with respect. Boundaries are not cruelty. Walking away is not weakness. Continuing to help — despite the hate — is strength. Let them keep projecting. You keep doing the work that matters. ❤️ Sarah Wingfiel...

I do not condone hate campaigns at any level. I understand that some supporters are angry about the mistreatment I have received from #Retrophiliac, but if we respond by treating others the way I was treated, then we are no better than the behaviour we are calling out.🙌🏻 Under no circumstances do we retaliate with harm. If others choose to act in harmful ways, that is their responsibility — not ours. We do not mirror harassment, abuse, or intimidation. What happened to me was genuinely distressing, and I do not minimise that. But I will not endorse harassment of any kind, even when emotions are running high. Integrity matters to me more than outrage. I believe in accountability. I believe in boundaries. And I believe in karma. Sarah Wingfield  Independent Disability Advocate  #disabilityinclusion #strongertogether #disability #disabilityawareness #disabilitysupport #disabilityrights Alt text: Soft, gentle illustration symbolising emotional exhaustion and healing. A calm, pas...

Twisting the Narrative: People have continued to alert me that Retrophiliac is still twisting the narrative and producing judgemental content that has directly contributed to real-world harm against me. At no point did I say that any disabled person is intrinsically better than another. What I stated — clearly — is that the message matters more than the money, while also affirming that disabled creators absolutely deserve to be paid for their work. What disabled creators do not deserve is for larger pages to prioritise monetisation so aggressively that they demand content be removed unless it benefits them financially, or to weaponise their platforms by spreading false narratives that result in smaller creators being harassed, abused, or financially penalised — as I was. This situation was never about denying payment to disabled people. It is about values, ethics, and responsibility. When a platform is used to harm rather than help — especially by targeting smaller advocates — the issu...

“I don’t know how to convince you to care about other people.” I don’t know how to convince you to care about other people. And honestly? I shouldn’t have to. Empathy isn’t radical. Inclusion isn’t political. Caring about disabled people, marginalised communities, and those different from you is the bare minimum of being human. If someone’s existence feels like an inconvenience to you, that’s not their problem — it’s a values problem. We all deserve dignity. We all deserve access. We all deserve to belong. No convincing required. 💗 Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Independent Disability Advocate  #DisabilityAwareness #InclusionMatters #EmpathyIsNotOptional #HumanRights #KawaiiDollDecora Alt text: Illustrated group of diverse children standing together, smiling and holding a sign that reads “I don’t know how to convince you to care about other people.” The children vary in skin tone, hair, clothing, and ability, including two wheelchair users and a child wearing a hijab. Soft pastel backgr...

A HUGE thank you to my spirit tribe of supporters and followers!  Every single one of you matter and are appreciated! 6.6k! 🎉🎉🎉 Thank you so much 🙏🏻  Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Alt text: A stylised screenshot of a Facebook public figure profile for Sarah Wingfield. The profile shows 6.6K followers and 870 following, highlighted with a purple arrow and pink heart graphics. The circular profile photo shows Sarah with bright pink hair, heavy eyeliner, red lipstick, and a playful kiss pose, wearing headphones. Overlaid text reads “Thank You!” in pink bubble lettering. The background is soft, pastel and blurred, with a faint quote reading “You are the main character, so act like it.” Decorative hearts and a “Kawaii Doll Decora” heart logo appear in the corners, giving the image a cute, celebratory aesthetic.

As an advocate, watching what’s happening online right now — the lashing out, the ableism, the infighting — I genuinely recommend people take huge breaks from social media this winter. Misunderstanding someone and choosing to insult them isn’t helping anyone. Being Disabled and expecting other differently-disabled people to suffer is never the answer. Trying to dictate who “deserves” support or manipulating conversations around benefits is abusive, full stop. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or acting out of spite, please step back. Others don’t need your negativity at a time when everything is already amplified and difficult. And yes — that goes for the “nasty sorts” too. Take a break before you pour your BS onto people who are already struggling. Suicidal ideation is high this time of year. People deserve support and compassion — not lectures, judgement, or power-tripping. Abuse and hate have never solved anything, so ask yourself why you think you’re being “superior” while behaving in ...

Not Their Enemy, Just Their Reminder: Some people see genuine support as a threat because they’ve been too busy being maladaptive, nepotistic, and sabotaging others while pretending to help. They weaponise their so-called “support” to harm, and they don’t want those they’ve pushed out of the community — their self-proclaimed elite — to have a real voice. They thrive on ostracising, silencing, and blacklisting others. I’ve lived it, so of course I get trolled and attacked for running a magazine that gives everyone a voice and refuses to leave anyone out. Because of a false community protection notice I received, there are now two organisations and a company I can’t publish about in the magazine. My genuine support for them was met with lies, manipulation, and abuse — and I can’t be involved with them anymore. I still write about the reality of what happens. I prefer positive and uplifting posts, but I can’t control how others behave — I can only call it out and focus on the spaces that ...

Fighting for Community: Why The Aviator Matters More Than Ever Something powerful happens when people come together — when a space opens its doors to everyone, no matter their background, ability, or walk of life. That’s what The Aviator Sports & Live Lounge has done for our town. And now, it’s under threat. For years, The Aviator has been more than just a venue. It’s been a beating heart in Newton Aycliffe. A place for celebration, connection, live music, family events, sports, comfort food, and spontaneous laughter with strangers who become friends. It’s one of the rare spaces that makes you feel like you belong — and in a world that can feel so divided and isolating, that’s priceless. As a disabled woman, I’ve often found public spaces either inaccessible or unwelcoming. But not The Aviator. It’s one of the few places where I’ve never had to fight to be included. The staff have always been kind, attentive, and respectful. I can just be. That shouldn’t be rare — but sadly, it is....