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Growth starts with Accountability:

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Remember: Growth starts with accountability. I have never been diagnosed with, or experienced, paranoia. I also experience no side effects from my prescribed medical cannabis, none, which I use exactly as directed to manage chronic pain. My treatment is well documented and monitored by the medical professionals involved in my care. Ignorant assumptions are part of the problem. When someone leads with assumptions instead of curiosity, facts rarely change their mind because they weren't interested in the facts to begin with. Yes, I'm still annoyed about yesterday. I'm human, and I'm doing my best. That's all any of us can do. Sometimes it's okay to admit you got something wrong. I know I do. I'm proud I fix myself when I'm the issue and when others don't want resolution, like I do - I step away. Accountability means caring enough to reflect, apologise when necessary, and do better.  An apology isn't just words; it includes changed behaviour.  Real...

Stay balanced in the face of online hate:

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Too many people hate online — and it’s worth remembering this: Projections are not facts. They are not informed perspectives. They are fragments of someone else’s unresolved pain, fear, or insecurity, thrown outward. We don’t exist to absorb that damage. Most of us are here to help, to contribute, to make things a little safer or kinder for someone else — and that does matter. Quietly. Consistently. Even when strangers try to drown it out with noise. Take the hate if you must — but don’t carry it. Hold a mirror up to poor behaviour without becoming it. Name harm without internalising it. And always remember this truth: It is their responsibility to fix themselves. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. You are not required to shrink, soften, or explain your humanity to be treated with respect. Boundaries are not cruelty. Walking away is not weakness. Continuing to help — despite the hate — is strength. Let them keep projecting. You keep doing the work that matters. ❤️ Sarah Wingfiel...

Clarification Vs. Assumptions:

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Clarification Vs. Assumptions: Why do some men seek excuses to be abusive over seeking clarification? Projecting assumptions about you onto you to justify their own ego and negativity. Bro, I ain't your enemy, your own mind however and eagerness to be cruel to women you don't know.. that's your enemy right there. 🎯 This pattern isn’t about misunderstanding — it’s about choice. A few things are usually going on when someone seeks excuses to be abusive instead of asking for clarification: 1. Ego protection over truth Clarification requires humility. Abuse lets them feel right without doing the work. If they pause to ask, they risk discovering they’re wrong — and some egos would rather burn bridges than face that. 2. Projection as a defence mechanism They offload their own anger, shame, entitlement, or insecurity onto you. It’s easier to say “you’re the problem” than to sit with “why am I so reactive?” 3. Control feels safer than curiosity Curiosity opens dialogue. Abuse shut...

They Made Me Their Hobby – And I Survived Anyway

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They Made Me Their Hobby – And I Survived Anyway I was always one of the “weird ones”, apparently. The strange girl, the alt kid, the one people didn’t quite understand but somehow couldn’t leave alone. I didn’t realise it at the time, but some people only know how to process difference by attacking it. And I was different. I didn’t shrink. I didn’t blend in. I existed — loudly, imperfectly, honestly. And that was apparently enough to make me a target. Back in the Bish Vegas days, when the goth scene had its own universe, I had hate tracks written about me. Actual songs. Imagine being a teenage girl with an alias — angelwings13 — and hearing that grown lads in the alt scene had used their “creativity” to slate you. I was shocked. My friends had to calm me down because I genuinely couldn’t believe that I was the muse for their bitterness. Of all the things they could write about, they chose a teenage girl just trying to survive. Their lyrics were vile — accusing me of STDs even though I...