Clarification Vs. Assumptions:

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Clarification Vs. Assumptions:


Why do some men seek excuses to be abusive over seeking clarification? Projecting assumptions about you onto you to justify their own ego and negativity. Bro, I ain't your enemy, your own mind however and eagerness to be cruel to women you don't know.. that's your enemy right there. 🎯


This pattern isn’t about misunderstanding — it’s about choice.


A few things are usually going on when someone seeks excuses to be abusive instead of asking for clarification:


1. Ego protection over truth


Clarification requires humility. Abuse lets them feel right without doing the work. If they pause to ask, they risk discovering they’re wrong — and some egos would rather burn bridges than face that.


2. Projection as a defence mechanism


They offload their own anger, shame, entitlement, or insecurity onto you. It’s easier to say “you’re the problem” than to sit with “why am I so reactive?”


3. Control feels safer than curiosity


Curiosity opens dialogue. Abuse shuts it down. When someone feels powerless internally, cruelty gives them a brief illusion of dominance.


4. Dehumanisation of women they don’t know


If they don’t see you as a full person, they don’t feel obligated to treat you like one. Assumptions replace listening. Stereotypes replace nuance.


5. Conflict as permission


They’re often already primed to be cruel — they’re just waiting for a justification. Any ambiguity becomes a green light.



You are not their enemy.


You existing, setting boundaries, or simply being visible isn’t an attack.


Their inner narrative, unexamined biases, and eagerness to externalise blame — that’s the enemy they refuse to face.


You choosing clarity, self-respect, and not engaging in their projected war?


That’s not weakness. That’s discernment. 💥


#KnowTheDifference between seeking clarity and seeking to justify and excuse your own abuse. ❤️ 


Sarah Wingfield ❤️ 

Independent Disability Advocate 

Speaking out on clarification Vs assumptions.


#assumptions #excuses #abusivenature #clarification 


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