Why it's not an equal playing field:
"What's wrong with society isn't just abusers, it's those that are indoctrinated with toxic ideals that ENABLE the abusers"
What’s wrong with society isn’t just abusers — it’s the toxic ideals that enable them.
I keep seeing comments aimed at girls and women saying “respect is mutual” as if we all exist on equal ground. We don’t. That argument deliberately ignores reality.
In many countries, girls have no legal rights at all. They are not safe in hospitals, not safe in schools, not safe within systems meant to protect them. They are abused by teachers, doctors, police officers, relatives — the very people society tells them to trust.
Disabled girls and women are often forced onto contraception, not for their autonomy or wellbeing, but because male violence is so normalised that the responsibility is placed on victims instead of perpetrators.
And this isn’t rare. It’s systemic.
Nine-year-old girls are being married off and dying from internal bleeding. Female genital mutilation is still being carried out — justified by religion, tradition, or “culture” — when it is nothing less than extreme, lifelong abuse.
Yet instead of confronting these realities, people cling to comforting lies. They blame women.
They blame girls. They call it “choice”, “tradition”, or “mutual respect” while refusing to acknowledge power, coercion, fear, and violence.
Abuse is not just an individual failing — it’s a collective one.
And until society stops protecting harmful ideals, abusers will continue to feel justified, supported, and untouchable.
Sarah Wingfield ❤️
All FOR EDUCATION on healthy relationships, boundaries and red flags in the educational system. 🙏🏻
