PGP / SPD My story:

We give people more chances than they need, and more explanations than they deserve - because our intention is resolution. The problem is, not everyone shares that intention. Some people will take your words, twist them, and repurpose them into something they can use to justify their behaviour.  Not because they misunderstood you - but because their goal was never understanding.  It was harm. Once you’ve seen it, you can’t unsee it. Look at the patterns:  – Who rallies others instead of resolving things directly. – Who hides public attacks behind the word “accountability”. – Who thrives in group pile-ons and audience validation. That’s not growth. That’s performance. And the moment they realise you see them clearly? That’s when it escalates. The truth is, I gave chances. I communicated. I clarified. And now I’m choosing distance - not because I don’t care, but because I care enough about my peace not to stay around energy like that. For those of us with CPTSD, this hits d...

Watching Kindness Disappear: People have been acting a bit wild lately. There’s a noticeable increase in hostile group behaviour, and while it often gets personalised, the truth is that most of the time it isn’t about the individual being targeted at all. We’re living in a time where people are tired, overwhelmed, and stretched thin. Life is hard. Systems are failing. Support is inconsistent. Many people are operating in survival mode. And when that happens, patience and empathy are often the first things to disappear. Sometimes it’s something as small as forgetting to say “please.” Sometimes it’s a message written bluntly because someone is exhausted, neurodivergent, anxious, or simply having a bad day. Instead of curiosity or compassion, what follows is a pile-on. A jump. A snap judgment. A sudden assumption of intent that was never there to begin with. What I see, again and again, is people waiting for a mistake. Waiting for a slip, a poorly worded sentence, a moment of vulnerabilit...