PGP / SPD My story:

Reactive Abuse Awareness: Reactive abuse is often a trauma response. It's what happens when someone is repeatedly provoked, antagonised, manipulated, harassed, lied about, threatened, or pushed beyond their limits. What many people fail to acknowledge is that those who engage in abusive behaviour rarely talk about what they did to create the reaction they later use as "proof" against their target. They don't talk about the name-calling. They don't talk about the lies. They don't talk about the stalking. They don't talk about the boundary violations. They don't talk about the threats. They don't talk about the attempts to recruit others into campaigns of hatred and harassment. Instead, they focus entirely on the reaction. A reaction they often spent weeks, months, or even years trying to provoke. Kind people don't obsess over people who have blocked them. Kind people don't repeatedly talk about someone who wants no contact with them. Kind pe...

Anti-Social Media So many of my online friends are abandoning Facebook because of the hostility, abuse, and sheer toxicity that has become normalised. As someone living with dynamic disabilities, I completely understand why they feel they need to do it. I've been targeted myself. But it's heartbreaking when you've known people for years—people who were there when you were isolated, housebound, or bedbound—and they're effectively being bullied out of the spaces where you stayed connected. Many disabled people don't have large social circles in real life. Illness, disability, caring responsibilities, trauma, and accessibility barriers can make social media a lifeline rather than a luxury. That's why it's so disheartening to watch amazing people leave because they are exhausted by constant hostility. I've reported threats of violence, hate campaigns, targeted harassment, and posts designed to incite hatred. Too often, nothing happens. No action is taken. No...

You Can’t Dunning-Kruger Away Disability: Today I experienced something that highlights a much wider problem within discussions about disability and neurodivergence. A man entered an ADHD group, openly flaunting his Psychology PhD, and used that perceived authority to make sweeping, harmful claims about people with ADHD — framing the condition as an excuse to avoid accountability. When those claims were challenged with evidence, lived experience, and respectful factual correction, he didn’t engage. Instead, he mocked, dismissed, and ultimately blocked me. I did not hide behind a nickname. I spoke openly, calmly, and transparently as a woman and as a disabled advocate. That visibility made me a target — not because I was wrong, but because I refused to be silent or defer to ego over evidence. This isn’t about “winning” an argument. It’s about what happens when people prioritise authority, credential flexing, and belittlement over meaningful discussion — and how that behaviour actively h...