PGP / SPD My story:

I used to believe this . Up until recently. I used to think that if people lied, harassed, stalked, threatened, smeared, or targeted me, the answer was to correct them, defend myself, explain, provide evidence, and make them see reason. What I've learned is that some people don't want resolution. They want attention. They want a reaction. They want to know they're taking up space in your head and stealing your time. Not anymore. These days, I block, ignore, log, and report. I have a community to support, advocacy work to do, a magazine to publish, a young person to mentor, family to love, and a life to live. I'm not wasting my energy arguing with people who have already decided who they want me to be. The truth doesn't need me to repeat it every five minutes. People with logic, common sense, and critical thinking skills will look at the evidence and come to their own conclusions. Those are the people I want around me anyway. In a strange way, abuse often reveals who...

  100% accuracy – Japanese. 🙌🏻 Sarah Wingfield ❤️ #Duolingo #Japanese #StillGoing #Studies Kawaii Doll Decora  Alt text: Bright yellow Duolingo progress screen dated February 1. Text reads “I’m acing Japanese lessons with 100% accuracy!” A smiling green Duolingo owl appears on the right. Below, a section titled “Words I learned” shows white rounded tiles with Japanese katakana words: ネコ, ワニ, コ, ネン, フネ, イケ, フ, サケ, フユ, and ケ. The Duolingo logo appears at the bottom and KawaiiDollDecora.uk.  Words learned: neko (ネコ) – cat 🐱 wani (ワニ) – crocodile 🐊 ko (コ) – katakana “ko” (character sound) nen (ネン) – year (used as a sound element/counter) fune (フネ) – boat / ship 🚢 ike (イケ) – pond 🏞️ fu (フ) – katakana “fu” sake (サケ) – salmon 🐟 (also means alcohol when written 酒 — context matters) fuyu (フユ) – winter ❄️ ke (ケ) – katakana “ke” Still going. Still learning. Still smashing it. 💅🏻✨

From Argument to Advocacy: My Journey of Healing There was a time when I was quick to argue, always ready to defend myself against anyone who misunderstood me or dismissed my perspective. I carried so much pain, injustice, and frustration that it spilled into the way I communicated. If someone challenged me, I pushed back — hard. Looking back, I can see that this was less about the discussion itself and more about my own need to be heard, believed, and validated. But healing changes you. Today, I no longer argue for the sake of it. I state my points, calmly and clearly, and then I leave it there. Not because I don’t care, but because I’ve learned that not everyone listens to understand. Many people simply talk at others, desperate to push out their own view without really absorbing what’s being said. And that’s okay — healing takes time, and not everyone is there yet. When something doesn’t make sense, I will still challenge it — because I believe our communities deserve better. But I...