When People Twist the Story — and You Know the Truth:
When People Twist the Story — and You Know the Truth
There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from hearing your life retold by people who were never interested in the truth to begin with.
You hear the story being twisted.
Details removed.
Context erased.
Motives invented.
And all the while, you’re sitting there knowing exactly what actually happened.
That moment — when someone confidently spreads a version of events that bears no resemblance to reality — is infuriating, disorientating, and deeply unfair. Not because you’re confused about the truth, but because you’re watching people choose a lie that suits them over facts that don’t.
All the false allegations being spread about me are attempts to rewrite reality and justify harm. They are untrue. I know what I did and did not do, and I will never be an abuser. Anyone who genuinely understands abuse knows that accountability and truth matter more than smears and scapegoating.
False narratives don’t appear out of nowhere. They’re often created to excuse behaviour that would otherwise be indefensible — to avoid accountability, to protect certain people, or to shift blame onto someone who dared to speak up, set boundaries, or survive.
And once a lie becomes convenient, it spreads quickly.
This has persisted for years and has caused real distress. Prolonged misrepresentation, ostracism, and harassment wear a person down in ways that are difficult to articulate unless you’ve lived it. It’s not just frustrating — it’s destabilising. It forces you to constantly defend your own reality while others casually rewrite it.
What makes it even harder is watching people choose not to care about the truth.
Anyone who genuinely understands abuse understands this too: truth matters. Accountability matters. Smears are not justice, and scapegoating is not resolution. When people blur those lines, they don’t just harm individuals — they poison entire communities.
If people invested even half as much energy into supporting others as they do into harassment and ostracism, we would be living in a far healthier society.
This situation has pushed me to the limits of endurance, and that alone shows how damaging prolonged harassment can be. I am not seeking escalation, hostility, or further harm. I am seeking resolution, accountability, and an end to this.
I want peace.
I want safety.
I want to move forward without carrying the weight of other people’s dishonesty.
And most of all, I choose to trust myself — because I know what I did and didn’t do, regardless of how many times someone tries to twist the story.
Truth doesn’t need to shout.
It just needs to exist.
And it does.
In addition to the above:
Legal advice has repeatedly characterised my situation as a “civil matter,” with each incident of harassment treated as an isolated event.
As a result, the wider pattern is not examined, the context is lost, and no meaningful action is taken.
I do not feel able to safely attend my local council offices.
Individuals who have ostracised me, made allegations to the police that I strongly dispute, and excluded both me and my community work hold positions of influence within the council.
My complaints are routinely overlooked, and the exclusion and hostile treatment are ongoing.
Over time, this behaviour has been minimised to the point that it appears to be treated as acceptable.
In parallel, police notices have been issued against me based on allegations that were not substantiated to me, while direct harassment that I have experienced has been dismissed as a “civil matter.”
In one instance, an individual involved stated that she believed herself to be protected due to personal connections within the police, and that she would not face consequences for her actions. This individual also holds a senior role within a women’s support organisation, which raises serious safeguarding and accountability concerns.
Allegations made against me are treated as sufficiently credible to restrict or silence me, while the harm I report is minimised or disregarded — particularly where those involved are socially or professionally connected. This imbalance has had a profound impact.
This is not a collection of unrelated events. It reflects a sustained pattern of harassment, exclusion, and what appears to be a misuse of authority.
I am sometimes told this situation is “boring” or “repetitive.” That response reflects a misunderstanding of abuse dynamics.
It is not possible to “move on” from harm that is still ongoing. Silence does not resolve ongoing harm.
My access to community spaces, opportunities, and events has been restricted. My advocacy and community work have been deliberately excluded.
This is not accountability; it represents institutional failure.
Continuous abuse cannot be treated as historical.
Ongoing harassment cannot be dismissed as trivial.
And silencing those who report harm is not justice.
I created this blog post to express the impact of this situation.
Much of this remains beyond my control. Until those in positions of power are willing to recognise patterns of harm and act with transparency and accountability, the situation is likely to continue.
Sarah Wingfield
Independent Disability Advocate ❤️
#hometownabuse #ongoing #ostracism #harm #nepotism #falseallegations #misuseofpower #exclusion #harassment
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A dramatic digital illustration showing a distressed woman with her head bowed and one hand pressed to her forehead, standing alone while multiple disembodied hands point at her from all sides. Red speech bubbles surround her with words like “LIAR,” “ABUSER,” “MONSTER,” “FALSE,” “GUILTY,” and “SCAPEGOAT,” symbolising false accusations and public blame. Shadowy figures form an intimidating crowd in the background, creating a sense of isolation, harassment, and scapegoating. A heart-shaped “Kawaii Doll Decora” logo appears in the bottom-right corner.
