Wednesday, 4 November 2009
Baby has dropped and I feel let down:
*OH SO ALL SEVERE SPD SUFFERERS ARE PSYCHOSOMATIC AND PUTTING THEIR CHILDREN AT RISK ARE THEY?*
My baby has dropped now so I am really excited, in all this madness and mess he is so fantastic we were playing with Mr. lumpy as he is known now despite us already having given him a name, all night and he was so responsive, he is so beautiful already and I cannot wait to meet him.
In all this chaos he is the best thing that is happening right now.
Got a call from my G.P today, the call was so-so... I am disappointed as the NHS have failed to provide me with a medical professional experienced with SPD or even experienced in pelvic joints, so looks like I am going to have to go privately if I want to be taken seriously.
As fine as I am to see a psychiatrist I do not understand how they are so keen as to suggest it is psychosomatic when failing to even be prepared to allow me the assessment of an experienced individual who can confirm my condition or as they seem to want at the moment confirm there is no condition.
I personally do not see how a psychiatrist can magically fix my misaligned pelvis before childbirth and believe me I will be taking action if anything happens from what I define as this malpractice.
It is easy to suggest something when you yourself are inexperienced but surely you would want to have the opinion of someone experienced and capable of examining me (which I have not had yet) first prior to assuming that it is psychosomatic and even making allegations that I would put my baby at risk.
I am disappointed at the lack of faith in individuals and the lack of care, I feel they are unjustified as they have lack of medical evidence as they are continuously refusing to examine me so I am taking matters into my own hands and going to see a professional privately myself.
Then I can provide the results and fair enough if they do turn around and say well there is nothing whatsoever physically wrong with you, of course I will then see some one in regards to cognitive abnormalities/mental conditions to get better; but to just immediately place an individual in such a situation without providing medical evidence that the condition does or does not exist is just careless.
I will be taking legal action if there is permanent damage from such assumptions.
They have to remember that it is just logical surely common sense to have a pelvic joint specialist review me prior to just wasting money and putting me at risk with the condition to someone who 'I need to work with to be able to get through childbirth'.
They don't take the pelvic partnership or the ACPWH seriously and despite the study I posted on this site they seem to prefer to act careless.
I am of no risk to my baby, and they have one big fight on their hands as I am not someone they can walk all over and I am not vulnerable enough to just give up, believe what they say, become depressed and worst case scenario, as some women would, overdose or similar.
I need to make a stand not just for me but for every SPD sufferer who they are taking advantage of, and putting in a vulnerable position, assumptions and lack of evidence can lead to fatalities. They need to be prepared to offer what page 77, section 9 Problems, right hand column (first NHS baby book given free to first time mothers) states in black and white. REFERRAL to specialists!!! Not people who believe they are specialists because they have experience with some women who have crutches and are fixed in the closed minded state that SPD is hormonal and only starts in the third trimester.
Something needs to be done now, so I will get MY OWN medical assessment from a PROFESSIONAL in PELVIC JOINTS and then I will happily own up if they are right!! And if they are wrong as I know they are I will be taking action.
Enough is enough, I am sick of them putting me through pain just because they are inexperienced with SPD, I have suffered enough! I have lost enough! I have wasted enough time justifying myself to people who are ignorant!
I only allowed them to examine me on my back to make sure my baby was safe and YES IT WAS (without swearing) EXCRUCIATINGLY PAINFUL and no mother to be should have to deal with such problems in their pregnancy, let alone anyone in general be forced to put up with what I have.
Just because I had a sane reaction in my past to a traumatic event does not suddenly define me as mentally ill. It is sad that 'professionals' in modern day society are prepared to ruin peoples lives with such closed minded, unjustified, assumptions.
This is NOT over and they are NOT taking my child from me, my message to them is clear:
Our child is our LIFE, and I would not expect any of them to understand when they are clearly incapable of referring me to the CORRECT department prior to just wasting my and others time labelling me from opinion!
My child will be very much loved and in all fairness I hope to God my condition gets better on its own as I cannot cope being involved with such people for much longer.
Get over yourselves and get me the correct referral! You are only failing as a Dr. when you fail to provide appropriate care instead of caring about your pride and trying to justify that your unsupported allegations are correct! People are more important than your pride, and you will only dig a hole for yourself by protecting your pride and referring people with real issues to the wrong department, I will take action if and when you make this matter worse by your decisions.
I know I am being harsh, but enough is enough, and if I don't do this and care, who else will? As the pelvic partnership cannot converse with professionals and professionals are not prepared to listen to them or SCIENTIFIC STUDIES BY MIDWIVES IN 2007 either.
RE: Study by Royal College of Midwives-Evidence-Based Midwifery, Sept, 2007 by Vanda K. Wellock, Margaret A. Crichton
Wish me luck guys as I have one hell of a fight on my hands, how are you supposed to justify your issues to people who already assume it is all in your head, and are not open minded enough to think otherwise, even for a second, I think I would have a better more intellectual conversation with a wall.