PGP / SPD My story:

When I Shut Down, I’m Not Punishing You A neurodivergent explanation of overwhelm, boundaries, and repair There’s a persistent misunderstanding about neurodivergent people — particularly autistic and AuDHD people — that when we shut down, go quiet, or step away, we’re being difficult. We’re not. When I end a call, stop responding, or need space, it isn’t rejection, manipulation, or the so-called “silent treatment”. It’s my nervous system hitting capacity. Shutdown isn’t simply feeling upset or stressed; it’s a full-body response. Sound, tone, conflict, emotional intensity, expectations, time pressure — they all stack. And once that stack tips over, my brain can no longer process safely. At that point, continuing the conversation doesn’t lead to understanding; it leads to escalation, shutdown, or harm. So I pause — not because I don’t care, but because I care enough not to push myself past a point that causes damage. Pressure makes this worse. When someone pushes for reassurance, mutter...

When “Civil Matters” Have Real-World Consequences I’m struggling to understand how what’s happening to me is being treated as a “civil matter” when the consequences are anything but civil. I have been publicly lied about. Not minor misunderstandings, not harmless gossip — but allegations that, if believed, put my safety at real risk. Yet I’m told this is not something the police can address. That it’s a matter for Facebook, page admins, or civil legal advice. At the same time, I was issued with a Community Protection Notice over a single comment and shares, made while speaking about mistreatment and harm I’ve experienced. That contradiction is impossible to ignore. If online behaviour is considered a civil issue, then it’s deeply concerning that enforcement action was taken against me, while repeated public misinformation about me continues unchecked and dismissed. False allegations do not exist in a vacuum. They shape how people see you, how they treat you, and whether you are safe in...

When People Twist the Story — and You Know the Truth There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from hearing your life retold by people who were never interested in the truth to begin with. You hear the story being twisted. Details removed. Context erased. Motives invented. And all the while, you’re sitting there knowing exactly what actually happened. That moment — when someone confidently spreads a version of events that bears no resemblance to reality — is infuriating, disorientating, and deeply unfair. Not because you’re confused about the truth, but because you’re watching people choose a lie that suits them over facts that don’t. All the false allegations being spread about me are attempts to rewrite reality and justify harm. They are untrue. I know what I did and did not do, and I will never be an abuser. Anyone who genuinely understands abuse knows that accountability and truth matter more than smears and scapegoating. False narratives don’t appear out of nowhere. They’...

A HUGE thank you to my spirit tribe of supporters and followers!  Every single one of you matter and are appreciated! 6.6k! 🎉🎉🎉 Thank you so much 🙏🏻  Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Alt text: A stylised screenshot of a Facebook public figure profile for Sarah Wingfield. The profile shows 6.6K followers and 870 following, highlighted with a purple arrow and pink heart graphics. The circular profile photo shows Sarah with bright pink hair, heavy eyeliner, red lipstick, and a playful kiss pose, wearing headphones. Overlaid text reads “Thank You!” in pink bubble lettering. The background is soft, pastel and blurred, with a faint quote reading “You are the main character, so act like it.” Decorative hearts and a “Kawaii Doll Decora” heart logo appear in the corners, giving the image a cute, celebratory aesthetic.

It’s often the smallest things that mean the most. I’m still struggling and working around chronic pain, with Unit 3 of my course left to finish. Some days take real effort just to keep going. My man came home at dinnertime and surprised me with coffee and sushi, and I honestly can’t thank him enough. 💛 So much of the good happens quietly, behind the scenes. It isn’t framed, photographed, or always visible to others — but it matters. I’m deeply grateful for the way he looks after me, works with me, and shows up for our relationship in ways that make life feel lighter. Now, back to my studies — I have my ASL session tomorrow. I’m also incredibly grateful for accessibility. I’ve had to do courses before with zero flexibility and even had to quit some because of it. Inclusion means being able to study around our conditions — and still achieve the same as anyone else. Always do random acts of kindness. The world needs them now more than ever. Sarah Wingfield 😊 #support #inclusion #relati...

Vulnerable Disabled Woman Silenced by Police After False Allegations, Caught on Film: Contemporaneous Account – Police Attendance re Community Protection Notice Date: 25 November 2024 Recording: An audio and video recording of this interaction exists and is retained by me. On 25 November 2024, a police officer attended my address and sought to issue a Community Protection Notice (CPN) based on allegations relating to my online activity. The CPN was NOT signed or Dated, no officer details were provided and it did not state the start date or the end date. The officer stated that the justification for issuing the notice was that I had made “shares” online and that “there was more than one comment.”   No specific content was identified, no evidence was presented to me, and no explanation was provided as to how this activity met the statutory threshold required for a Community Protection Notice. I was not informed of my rights, including: my right to challenge the allegations, my right ...

Renee Nicole Good vs. ICE Agents — The Facts: On January 7, 2026, Renee Nicole Macklin Good, aged 37, a U.S. citizen, mother of three, poet, writer, and Minneapolis resident, was shot and killed by an ICE agent during a federal immigration enforcement operation in south Minneapolis. Video footage and eyewitness accounts show Ms Good seated in her vehicle as ICE agents approached. As she attempted to move the SUV away from the scene, ICE agent Jonathan Ross fired into the vehicle, striking her multiple times. Ms Good was transported to hospital, where she was pronounced dead later that day. Evidence indicates that she attempted to leave, was sworn at, and was aggressively approached.  Weapons were drawn prior to an officer stepping in front of the moving vehicle. Shooting at a moving vehicle is prohibited under established law-enforcement policy except under the most extreme circumstances. Federal officials, including the Department of Homeland Security, have stated the agent acted ...

This is my personal perspective and statement only based on factual information gathered. Politics as I see it in the UK: I have no issue with people sharing their perspectives — that’s what platforms are for. My concern is with systemic failures, not individual opinions. We are living with entrenched ableism, a lack of meaningful employment support, and the continued targeting of disabled citizens.  Support services are stripped away while assisted dying bills are pushed. Meanwhile, homeless veterans, elderly people, and young people are treated appallingly — yet society is more willing to help animals than humans. (I wrote “Let the Homeless Choke” under K Doll because this hypocrisy needed naming, ask Alexa to play it.) Disabled people are routinely exploited as free labour, or paid up to 13% less if they manage to secure employment at all.  Media misinformation fuels this harm. Mobility vehicles are not luxuries — they are essential tools that enable independence, hospital ...

You Cannot “Let Go” of Abuse That Is Still Ongoing I am writing this as a factual account of my own lived experience. I am continuing to experience ongoing ostracism, exclusion, and hostile treatment within my town, involving individuals who hold positions of influence through local media, charities, and the town council. These experiences are the reason I am unable to simply “move on” or “let go”. I have raised concerns with Great Aycliffe Town Council . However, due to the conduct of several councillors and the ongoing involvement of individuals whose actions have caused me harm, I no longer feel safe or aligned attending council meetings. This is a personal safeguarding decision. I have experienced sustained exclusion from community platforms and representation. Since Paul Howarth took over Newton Press , my community and charity work has no longer been published or acknowledged. This is a decision he is entitled to make, but the impact has been exclusionary and has occurred al...

"What's wrong with society isn't just abusers, it's those that are indoctrinated with toxic ideals that ENABLE the abusers" What’s wrong with society isn’t just abusers — it’s the toxic ideals that enable them. I keep seeing comments aimed at girls and women saying “respect is mutual” as if we all exist on equal ground. We don’t. That argument deliberately ignores reality. In many countries, girls have no legal rights at all. They are not safe in hospitals, not safe in schools, not safe within systems meant to protect them. They are abused by teachers, doctors, police officers, relatives — the very people society tells them to trust. Disabled girls and women are often forced onto contraception, not for their autonomy or wellbeing, but because male violence is so normalised that the responsibility is placed on victims instead of perpetrators. And this isn’t rare. It’s systemic. Nine-year-old girls are being married off and dying from internal bleeding. Female genit...

 #proud  I’m so proud of those of us here who still recognise the importance of challenging and correcting harmful stigmas. ❤️ I’m proud of every one of you I see choosing to build others up, choosing kindness over hostility, help over judgement, and solidarity over division — because none of this is easy for us. We are worthy of support. ❤️ I’m also proud of those who, when a mirror is held up, choose accountability and growth. We are always one evolution away from becoming better versions of ourselves — and that choice is in our hands. When I get things wrong, I face it head on and I fix it. Yes, even when others want to fixate on it. I don’t change for optics — I change for me, because the people I support deserve my best. And sometimes, even the hardest lessons turn out to be blessings. 🙏🏻 I hope those of you who remain kind in difficult times stick around. We need more good than bad, and I am so tired of the bad. You can rest assured — I won’t be adding to it. 💯❤️ Sara...

Change does not begin with grand gestures. It begins with noticing what sits just outside the frame — the harm, the gaps, the people still waiting to be helped while attention is pulled elsewhere. We all like to believe we would do more if only we could. But in reality, there is always something we can do. Support a cause that aligns with your values. Lend your name, your voice, your time. Stand with others instead of assuming the worst and turning away. In the UK, people still need help — urgently. And while systems continue to fail, small acts of collective support remain one of the few things that still move the needle. Yet too often, energy is wasted on negativity, assumptions, and criticism that leads nowhere. It takes far less effort to dismiss than it does to act — but only one of those creates real change. I spend much of my life fighting systemic battles: ableism, discrimination, ostracism, abuse. I do this not as an observer, but as a survivor. And I can say this with certain...

Happy New Year everyone! Here's a video recap from 2025 (available to play at the bottom of this blog thanks to YouTube) and I hope we all smash 2026! In the best ways possible of course! Sarah ❤️ ~ Happy New Year ~ Alt text: A festive New Year collage on a dark background with a black and gold “Happy New Year” banner at the top, finished with a red bow. Below is a grid of photos showing cosy celebrations at home. Many images feature a person with long pink hair wearing a red beret and glasses, smiling, posing playfully, and making hand gestures in selfies. They appear with friends and a partner in relaxed, joyful moments. Several photos show a decorated Christmas tree with colourful lights and ornaments, a living room setup with TV and games, and a wall clock approaching midnight. A strip of Polaroid-style photos in the centre captures candid poses and group selfies. The overall mood is warm, intimate, and celebratory, marking the transition into the New Year. The handle “@KawaiiD...