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Don't Look Away - Book

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Change does not begin with grand gestures. It begins with noticing what sits just outside the frame — the harm, the gaps, the people still waiting to be helped while attention is pulled elsewhere. We all like to believe we would do more if only we could. But in reality, there is always something we can do. Support a cause that aligns with your values. Lend your name, your voice, your time. Stand with others instead of assuming the worst and turning away. In the UK, people still need help — urgently. And while systems continue to fail, small acts of collective support remain one of the few things that still move the needle. Yet too often, energy is wasted on negativity, assumptions, and criticism that leads nowhere. It takes far less effort to dismiss than it does to act — but only one of those creates real change. I spend much of my life fighting systemic battles: ableism, discrimination, ostracism, abuse. I do this not as an observer, but as a survivor. And I can say this with certain...

Happy New Year

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Happy New Year everyone! Here's a video recap from 2025 (available to play at the bottom of this blog thanks to YouTube) and I hope we all smash 2026! In the best ways possible of course! Sarah ❤️ ~ Happy New Year ~ Alt text: A festive New Year collage on a dark background with a black and gold “Happy New Year” banner at the top, finished with a red bow. Below is a grid of photos showing cosy celebrations at home. Many images feature a person with long pink hair wearing a red beret and glasses, smiling, posing playfully, and making hand gestures in selfies. They appear with friends and a partner in relaxed, joyful moments. Several photos show a decorated Christmas tree with colourful lights and ornaments, a living room setup with TV and games, and a wall clock approaching midnight. A strip of Polaroid-style photos in the centre captures candid poses and group selfies. The overall mood is warm, intimate, and celebratory, marking the transition into the New Year. The handle “@KawaiiD...

Why choice is not optional:

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Autonomy, Trauma, and Neurodivergence: Why Choice Is Not Optional Autonomy is often discussed as a personal preference or a lifestyle value, but for trauma survivors and neurodivergent people it is far more than that. It is a clinical, psychological, and ethical necessity. Research across trauma studies, neuroscience, and disability scholarship consistently shows that a sense of control over one’s body, environment, and decisions is central to nervous system regulation, mental wellbeing, and long‑term recovery. Without autonomy, even well‑intentioned support can unintentionally cause harm. This article explores why freedom of choice is so critical for trauma‑affected and neurodivergent individuals, how the loss of agency impacts the nervous system, and why respecting autonomy is a core principle of trauma‑informed and neurodiversity‑affirming practice. It also draws on the social model of disability, which recognises that many of the barriers disabled and neurodivergent people face are...

A Thank You as the Year Closes:

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A Thank You as the Year Closes ❤️ As we celebrate Christmas and gently close the door on 2025, I want to take a moment to say a huge, heartfelt thank you to my spirit tribe, my community, and my colleagues. This year has been one of growth, challenge, and deep connection. I’m incredibly grateful to everyone I’ve worked alongside, to those who trusted me and allowed me the opportunity to support them, and to all the people I’ve met along the way through my advocacy and charity work. I also want to say a special thank you to those in the film and movie industry who welcomed me in and shared some truly great adventures with me this year. The creativity, collaboration, and moments behind the scenes have been a real joy and a reminder of why storytelling matters. Every conversation, shared moment, and act of kindness has mattered more than you probably realise. None of this work exists in isolation — it’s built through community, compassion, and mutual respect. Thank you for walking parts o...

Independent Visiting:

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I saw my young person for the last time before Christmas today, and it was such a lovely way to wrap up the year. We went out for a coffee, exchanged presents, and had a really good catch-up. They’re doing so well, and I honestly couldn’t be prouder of them. Moments like this are exactly why I love what I do. It’s a real privilege to be part of someone’s journey — even in small, everyday ways. This kind of work can be challenging at times, but it’s also deeply rewarding, and more people should definitely consider it. It's meaningful work and I'm so happy to have this opportunity. We were also helped today by a wonderful lady called Angela at the food place, and we were so grateful for her kindness. It was lovely catching up and hearing all about my young person’s adventures — those moments mean so much. With Christmas Eve tomorrow, I’m feeling full of festive cheer, gratitude, and pride. Wishing everyone a truly wonderful Christmas. Sarah Wingfield ❤️ Alt text: Smiling person t...

Solidarity:

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I don’t believe in gender wars or segregation — but I do believe in naming patterns when they show up. Lately, what I’m seeing is this: more and more women are stepping into the role of protectors. They’re the ones putting themselves at risk, safeguarding others, speaking up when harm is happening, and acting with moral integrity — often at great personal cost. At the same time, I’m seeing fewer men stand beside them. Too many stay silent. Too many become wallflowers when abuse is happening right in front of them. And too many seem to reserve their energy not for helping, but for judging others online. This isn’t about attacking men as a group. It’s about accountability. In my view, all genders should carry the responsibility to challenge injustice and protect the vulnerable. Moral courage isn’t gendered — but silence in the face of harm is still a choice. If someone has the energy to be cruel, dismissive, or mocking online, then they have the energy to help. To intervene. To amplify v...

Formal complaint Sisters of Support:

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I did it... I’ve formally raised safeguarding concerns about how my personal support was handled, by submitting a complaint to Sisters of Support. I’m not expecting a response — that isn’t the point. What matters is that the failures I experienced, including breaches of verbal agreements and serious safeguarding concerns, are now on record. This was done for safety and safeguarding purposes only. Vulnerable women deserve genuine, ethical, and trauma-informed support. When people seek help, they should not be harmed further in the process. Accountability matters. Learning matters. And vulnerable women deserve better — always. Sarah ❤️ #safeguardingawareness #support #womensupportingwomen #abusesurvivor #abuseawareness #abuserecovery  Alt text: A woman with dark hair is alone in a dark room, she is huddled up with her head down and wearing a white top with blue bottoms, there is writing above that states "safeguarding and support matters after abuse" it has the tag "kawaii...