PGP / SPD My story:

Mr Flagman 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 (Poem by Sarah Wingfield) Mr Flagman, wrapped in red, white and blue, Shouting, "Freedom!"—but only for you. Proud to be British, you cry, uncensored and loud, Yet silence the voices that won't join your crowd. You claim to protect women, children, the weak, Until they disagree, until they dare speak. Then come the assumptions, the rumours, the lies, A story invented before truth even tries. You fill in the blanks with narratives made, Where facts disappear and fiction gets paid. A joke about flags, a wink and a grin, While threats hide beneath the humour within. "Let's find where they live." "It's only a laugh." Yet somehow it's always The vulnerable who feel the aftermath. "Come join the campaign." "Stand with the crew." But all that's required Is agreeing with you. The flags aren't for unity, They're banners of fear, A warning to anyone Who doesn't belong here. Inclusion is we...

I used to believe this . Up until recently. I used to think that if people lied, harassed, stalked, threatened, smeared, or targeted me, the answer was to correct them, defend myself, explain, provide evidence, and make them see reason. What I've learned is that some people don't want resolution. They want attention. They want a reaction. They want to know they're taking up space in your head and stealing your time. Not anymore. These days, I block, ignore, log, and report. I have a community to support, advocacy work to do, a magazine to publish, a young person to mentor, family to love, and a life to live. I'm not wasting my energy arguing with people who have already decided who they want me to be. The truth doesn't need me to repeat it every five minutes. People with logic, common sense, and critical thinking skills will look at the evidence and come to their own conclusions. Those are the people I want around me anyway. In a strange way, abuse often reveals who...

Reactive Abuse Awareness: Reactive abuse is often a trauma response. It's what happens when someone is repeatedly provoked, antagonised, manipulated, harassed, lied about, threatened, or pushed beyond their limits. What many people fail to acknowledge is that those who engage in abusive behaviour rarely talk about what they did to create the reaction they later use as "proof" against their target. They don't talk about the name-calling. They don't talk about the lies. They don't talk about the stalking. They don't talk about the boundary violations. They don't talk about the threats. They don't talk about the attempts to recruit others into campaigns of hatred and harassment. Instead, they focus entirely on the reaction. A reaction they often spent weeks, months, or even years trying to provoke. Kind people don't obsess over people who have blocked them. Kind people don't repeatedly talk about someone who wants no contact with them. Kind pe...

What's getting under my skin: I’m getting genuinely tired of people speaking on me without taking even two minutes to fact check anything they’re saying. It’s not even about disagreement — it’s the confidence people have to be wrong while being loud about it. That’s the part that grates. I’ve built what I’ve built through consistency, through effort, through pushing myself even on days where my body doesn’t want to cooperate. Chronic pain doesn’t pause the work — it just makes it harder. And I still show up. 👊🏻✨ So when people come into my space trying to question, minimise, or discredit that without doing basic research… it’s not curiosity, it’s carelessness at best — and disrespect at worst. I already know I don’t fit neatly into this world. I’m not supposed to. I didn’t build my life to be digestible for people who don’t take the time to understand it. If I’m not for you, that’s completely fine. Not everything is for everyone, and not everyone has good taste. 💋 But what you w...

Yes I am aware Retrophiliac has changed the narrative and is also lying about me on their page. Disabled people deserve to be paid - absolutely - so why is Retrophiliac changing the narrative to bully and harass me and make money from people's hate? I’m FULLY aware that the narrative around this situation has been changed and that inaccurate claims are now being shared about me. I do not condone hate or harassment — especially not from disabled people towards other disabled people. While the core point being raised is valid, the way this situation has been handled is not. When disabled advocates attack other disabled advocates for attempting to promote and uplift them—particularly when platform limitations (such as Facebook not allowing reshares) are the cause—this should never be turned into false or hateful narratives. Creating or amplifying misinformation to drive engagement, attention, or financial gain at the expense of another disabled person is not advocacy. Encouraging peo...

When People Twist the Story — and You Know the Truth There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from hearing your life retold by people who were never interested in the truth to begin with. You hear the story being twisted. Details removed. Context erased. Motives invented. And all the while, you’re sitting there knowing exactly what actually happened. That moment — when someone confidently spreads a version of events that bears no resemblance to reality — is infuriating, disorientating, and deeply unfair. Not because you’re confused about the truth, but because you’re watching people choose a lie that suits them over facts that don’t. All the false allegations being spread about me are attempts to rewrite reality and justify harm. They are untrue. I know what I did and did not do, and I will never be an abuser. Anyone who genuinely understands abuse knows that accountability and truth matter more than smears and scapegoating. False narratives don’t appear out of nowhere. They’...

  https://www.facebook.com/share/p/18jhfpj2f2/ If I had known that simply asking for accountability and an apology would lead to being ostracised in my hometown — to sabotage, abuse, organisations lying to the police, a false Community Protection Notice, and the loss of my voice as a disabled advocate — I might never have spoken up. But I did, because I believed in truth and justice. Now, Ayclive have joined in by blocking me from their page, after mistreating me and failing to make reasonable adjustments for my disabilities. It really makes you feel the “love” from your hometown, doesn’t it? The support group that coerced members into giving false statements against me is still operating. The man in the photo — who refused me a lift, prioritised PR over disability rights, and also gave false information to the police — is now a councillor. Durham County Council removed employment support from DurhamEnable, and silenced my advocacy because I’m legally prescribed medical cannabis. T...

WE ARE NOT EQUAL TO ABLE BODIED PEOPLE, WE ARE NOT WORTH IT: I AM MORE THAN UPSET. How many more rights do we have to lose as disabled individuals? COURSES AVAILABLE IN MY AREA: are FREE for people on JSA, and ESA (those worthy as they are capable to work) but NOT disabled individuals or disabled charity workers or volunteers. WE DISABLED HAVE TO PAY, FOR A COURSE THATS JUST MIXED CRAFTS! £3/hr, but when we are not receiving much in the form of benefits and are not able to work, how do we cope? This seems a small fee but it shortly adds up for those who cannot work, cannot improve their lives or financially progress. How do we meet other disabled people or MAKE NEW FRIENDS? In our area there are no DISABLED coach trips or meeting groups! (And especially not wheelchair accessible for any of the groups that do exist) I am working to set up the first SPD support group, if i ever get my own transport since there is no DISABLED TAXIS, and the only transport available ...