PGP / SPD My story:

When “Accountability” Becomes Abuse - My Experience With Online Harassment Campaigns: Over the past few days I’ve experienced what I genuinely believe to be targeted online abuse and coordinated harassment. People often think abuse only counts when it is physical, but abuse can also be psychological, social, reputational, emotional, and digital. What I have experienced includes: - Public humiliation and mass pile-ons. - False allegations being repeated as fact without evidence. - Encouragement of mass-reporting campaigns against my pages and work. - Attempts to isolate me socially and professionally by tagging organisations and community spaces I support. - Character assassination and reputational harm. - Gaslighting and repeated attempts to invalidate my lived experiences. - Mockery of my trauma responses and disability. - Ableist language and attacks against me for using accessibility tools like AI. - Attempts to portray me as mentally unstable for defending myself. - Threats involvi...

Accountability isn’t controversial — it’s necessary . If your first instinct is to question what someone was wearing instead of questioning why someone chose to abuse, then you’re not protecting anyone — you’re protecting harm. This is how victim blaming survives. This is how coercion and manipulation stay normalised. This is how people get silenced. Clothing is not consent. Existing is not consent. Abuse is a choice — and that choice belongs entirely to the abuser. We need to stop policing women’s bodies and start challenging dangerous mindsets. Because every time blame is misplaced, you make it easier for abuse to continue. Do better. Learn better. Be better. I’ve just come from a comment thread about school uniforms and dress codes, and honestly, some of the responses have been deeply concerning. We need to be very clear: clothing is not the issue. Abuse is the issue. Control is the issue. Coercion is the issue. Abusers do not abuse because of skirt length, tops, makeup, or what som...

When Medical Authority Becomes Abuse: While decluttering today, I came across my formal complaint from 2009 — the one where I challenged a gynaecologist (I’ll call him Mr O) who was repeatedly abusive and inappropriate towards me during pregnancy. Reading his responses now, with distance and clarity, the hypocrisy is glaring. His explanations don’t hold up against medical facts. He openly shows disdain toward me for using medical knowledge to challenge his behaviour — particularly around the treatment of Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction, which he clearly misrepresented. He attempts to justify referring me for psychiatric evaluations and social services investigations, presenting this as “normal duty of care for every mother.” He supports this narrative by claiming I was abusive and that everyone around me would say the same. Of course they would — because he had already primed staff by labelling me “psychosomatic.” He dismissed my documented physical needs, including my need for a stairlift...