PGP / SPD My story:

Accountability isn’t controversial — it’s necessary . If your first instinct is to question what someone was wearing instead of questioning why someone chose to abuse, then you’re not protecting anyone — you’re protecting harm. This is how victim blaming survives. This is how coercion and manipulation stay normalised. This is how people get silenced. Clothing is not consent. Existing is not consent. Abuse is a choice — and that choice belongs entirely to the abuser. We need to stop policing women’s bodies and start challenging dangerous mindsets. Because every time blame is misplaced, you make it easier for abuse to continue. Do better. Learn better. Be better. I’ve just come from a comment thread about school uniforms and dress codes, and honestly, some of the responses have been deeply concerning. We need to be very clear: clothing is not the issue. Abuse is the issue. Control is the issue. Coercion is the issue. Abusers do not abuse because of skirt length, tops, makeup, or what som...

When “Civil Matters” Have Real-World Consequences I’m struggling to understand how what’s happening to me is being treated as a “civil matter” when the consequences are anything but civil. I have been publicly lied about. Not minor misunderstandings, not harmless gossip — but allegations that, if believed, put my safety at real risk. Yet I’m told this is not something the police can address. That it’s a matter for Facebook, page admins, or civil legal advice. At the same time, I was issued with a Community Protection Notice over a single comment and shares, made while speaking about mistreatment and harm I’ve experienced. That contradiction is impossible to ignore. If online behaviour is considered a civil issue, then it’s deeply concerning that enforcement action was taken against me, while repeated public misinformation about me continues unchecked and dismissed. False allegations do not exist in a vacuum. They shape how people see you, how they treat you, and whether you are safe in...