I used to believe this...
I used to believe this . Up until recently. I used to think that if people lied, harassed, stalked, threatened, smeared, or targeted me, the answer was to correct them, defend myself, explain, provide evidence, and make them see reason. What I've learned is that some people don't want resolution. They want attention. They want a reaction. They want to know they're taking up space in your head and stealing your time. Not anymore. These days, I block, ignore, log, and report. I have a community to support, advocacy work to do, a magazine to publish, a young person to mentor, family to love, and a life to live. I'm not wasting my energy arguing with people who have already decided who they want me to be. The truth doesn't need me to repeat it every five minutes. People with logic, common sense, and critical thinking skills will look at the evidence and come to their own conclusions. Those are the people I want around me anyway. In a strange way, abuse often reveals who...
