PGP / SPD My story:

Let me be heard: I’ve just been given my court hearing date to legally ensure an ex leaves me alone. It’s the morning of my practical driving test. And I sat with that for a moment… not shocked, not even angry, just tired. Because sometimes life doesn’t give you space to process things one at a time. It stacks them. Major, emotional, life-shaping moments, all at once. On one hand, I’m preparing for a court hearing — something that represents boundaries, safety, and closure. On the other, I’m preparing for a driving test — something that represents independence, growth, and moving forward. Both important. Both significant. Both happening together. And it really made me reflect on resilience, not in the idealised sense, but in the very real, human sense. Showing up when you’re in pain. Showing up when your mind is foggy. Showing up when your circumstances feel overwhelming. There’s a narrative that resilience looks like strength and composure at all times, but often it looks like continu...

My Not-To-Do list: Well… that wasn’t on my to-do list. 🙃 I fell and twisted my ankle. One minute I was walking, next minute gravity said “absolutely not” and now I’m wrapped up in towels like a poorly little burrito. 😅 It’s sore. It’s frustrating. And if you know me, you know resting is not exactly my favourite hobby. I like being productive. I like moving. I like doing. But sometimes the body makes the decision for you. So I’m elevating it. Wrapping it. Being gentle. Letting it heal. 🩷 This is your reminder (and clearly mine too): Rest is not weakness. Slowing down is not failure. Healing is still progress. If I’m a little quieter while I recover, that’s why. Just sending love to my ankle and hoping it behaves itself. 💗✨ — Sarah Wingfield ❤️  #Healing #RestIsProductive #DisabledAndDetermined #KawaiiDollDecora #InConcreteIBloom Alt text: A close-up photo of a hand holding a square card against a soft, pale background. On the card is a kawaii-style cartoon illustration of an ank...

No Onion Boyfriends   I created this for those out there with partners who make them cry more often than they make them feel safe, loved, or valued. Onion boyfriends — all layers, all tears, no nourishment. Know your worth. You are worthy of consistency, care, and emotional safety. You are worthy of love that doesn’t hurt, confuse, or drain you. And you are absolutely worthy of more than anyone who repeatedly makes you cry. This is your reminder: love shouldn’t feel like something you have to survive. 💜 Kawaii Doll Decora 🌸 KawaiiDollDecora.uk #onion #affirmations #youmatter #youdeservelove #tears #crying #heartbreak #hardship  Alt text: Colourful kawaii-style illustration of a purple onion with a single all-seeing eye in the centre, shedding stylised tears. The onion sits against a pastel rainbow heart background with halftone dots, sparkles, and star shapes. Neon green and pink text curves around the onion reading “NO MORE ONION BOYFRIENDS.” A small heart logo says “Kawaii...

From Argument to Advocacy: My Journey of Healing There was a time when I was quick to argue, always ready to defend myself against anyone who misunderstood me or dismissed my perspective. I carried so much pain, injustice, and frustration that it spilled into the way I communicated. If someone challenged me, I pushed back — hard. Looking back, I can see that this was less about the discussion itself and more about my own need to be heard, believed, and validated. But healing changes you. Today, I no longer argue for the sake of it. I state my points, calmly and clearly, and then I leave it there. Not because I don’t care, but because I’ve learned that not everyone listens to understand. Many people simply talk at others, desperate to push out their own view without really absorbing what’s being said. And that’s okay — healing takes time, and not everyone is there yet. When something doesn’t make sense, I will still challenge it — because I believe our communities deserve better. But I...

Finding Calm Through Pages: My New Tool for Healing and Hope: By Sarah Wingfield I recently discovered that Mind Charity has teamed up with Paperchase, and some of their beautiful and thoughtfully designed stationery is now available in selected Tesco stores. It might just be a notebook to some, but for me, it’s become something much more. I'm currently using one of these books to help me process both the good and bad days — to gently unpick the threads of harm, to understand the weight I carry, and to find my way back to myself after pain. Writing has always been one of my ways to cope, reflect, and recover, especially as someone who is disabled and neurodivergent. But this notebook has added a little spark — a reminder that support and beauty can coexist. That healing doesn’t always have to be loud. Sometimes, it’s found quietly in ink, intention, and a blank page. I'm also using it to set new goals for advocacy, to reignite my drive for positive change, and to hold space for...