PGP / SPD My story:

Today should be a day of celebration.  After years of hard work, consistency, determination, and refusing to give up, my stickers finally arrived for my autograph packages. ❤️ They represent two parts of my life that I have poured my heart into: creativity and advocacy. They represent the people I've supported, the voices I've amplified, the causes I've stood up for, and the dreams I've continued to chase even when life made things difficult. But if I'm honest, this past week has been relentless. I think people sometimes forget that behind every profile, page, group, blog, or business is a human being. It's difficult to fully celebrate something you've been excited about when you're simultaneously navigating health battles, recovering from targeted behaviour, dealing with family wounds, and preparing for court proceedings connected to past abuse. Today, when these arrived, I expected to feel excited. Instead, I mostly felt tired. And that's okay. Bec...

“Let them.” Not everyone is meant to understand you. Not everyone will choose you. Not everyone will treat you how you deserve. And that’s where your power begins. As Mel Robbins teaches — let them. Let them misunderstand you. Let them leave. Let them show you exactly who they are. Because when you stop chasing, explaining, proving, and overextending… you create space for alignment, peace, and people who don’t require you to shrink. And psychologically? That’s not weakness — that’s regulation. That’s self-worth in action. As Chantal Heide often reinforces — people show you their standards through their behaviour, not their words. So believe what you see. Protect your energy. Choose yourself. Let them. 💕 — Sarah Wingfield ✨ KawaiiDollDecora.uk #LetThem #SelfWorth #EmotionalIntelligence #HealingJourney #Boundaries #Psychology #KnowYourWorth #Strongertogether #DisabilityAdvocate #KawaiiDollDecora Alt Text: A pink, kawaii-style digital graphic with a dreamy pastel background filled with s...

  Something I’ve learned from both sides of the system — as a disabled person and as a carer — is that compassion isn’t guaranteed. Genuine carers exist, and they are incredible people. But they are also rare, and pretending otherwise doesn’t help anyone. When we talk about abuse, neglect, or systemic failures in care, healthcare, or support services, people often react defensively instead of listening. But here’s the truth: We cannot change what we refuse to acknowledge. Calling out harm isn’t “negative”. It’s accountability. It’s advocacy. And it’s the first step toward building systems where compassion is the norm, not the exception. If we want real change for disabled people and vulnerable communities, we have to be willing to face uncomfortable truths. — Sarah Wingfield #abuse #compassion #change #support #disabilityadvocacy Alt Text: Kawaii pastel quote graphic branded with “Sarah Wingfield – Actress | Author | Advocate” and “KawaiiDollDecora.uk”. Cute pastel characters, sta...

My Not-To-Do list: Well… that wasn’t on my to-do list. 🙃 I fell and twisted my ankle. One minute I was walking, next minute gravity said “absolutely not” and now I’m wrapped up in towels like a poorly little burrito. 😅 It’s sore. It’s frustrating. And if you know me, you know resting is not exactly my favourite hobby. I like being productive. I like moving. I like doing. But sometimes the body makes the decision for you. So I’m elevating it. Wrapping it. Being gentle. Letting it heal. 🩷 This is your reminder (and clearly mine too): Rest is not weakness. Slowing down is not failure. Healing is still progress. If I’m a little quieter while I recover, that’s why. Just sending love to my ankle and hoping it behaves itself. 💗✨ — Sarah Wingfield ❤️  #Healing #RestIsProductive #DisabledAndDetermined #KawaiiDollDecora #InConcreteIBloom Alt text: A close-up photo of a hand holding a square card against a soft, pale background. On the card is a kawaii-style cartoon illustration of an ank...

Change does not begin with grand gestures. It begins with noticing what sits just outside the frame — the harm, the gaps, the people still waiting to be helped while attention is pulled elsewhere. We all like to believe we would do more if only we could. But in reality, there is always something we can do. Support a cause that aligns with your values. Lend your name, your voice, your time. Stand with others instead of assuming the worst and turning away. In the UK, people still need help — urgently. And while systems continue to fail, small acts of collective support remain one of the few things that still move the needle. Yet too often, energy is wasted on negativity, assumptions, and criticism that leads nowhere. It takes far less effort to dismiss than it does to act — but only one of those creates real change. I spend much of my life fighting systemic battles: ableism, discrimination, ostracism, abuse. I do this not as an observer, but as a survivor. And I can say this with certain...

Autonomy, Trauma, and Neurodivergence: Why Choice Is Not Optional Autonomy is often discussed as a personal preference or a lifestyle value, but for trauma survivors and neurodivergent people it is far more than that. It is a clinical, psychological, and ethical necessity. Research across trauma studies, neuroscience, and disability scholarship consistently shows that a sense of control over one’s body, environment, and decisions is central to nervous system regulation, mental wellbeing, and long‑term recovery. Without autonomy, even well‑intentioned support can unintentionally cause harm. This article explores why freedom of choice is so critical for trauma‑affected and neurodivergent individuals, how the loss of agency impacts the nervous system, and why respecting autonomy is a core principle of trauma‑informed and neurodiversity‑affirming practice. It also draws on the social model of disability, which recognises that many of the barriers disabled and neurodivergent people face are...

 Pursue yourself. Self-reflect. Set little goals. Celebrate little wins. Be kind when you make mistakes or struggle — you’re flawed, and that’s okay. Just learn from it. Let people hate and misunderstand you. Try to spread kindness where you can — it’s needed. Always speak up. Action positive change. Challenge what needs to be challenged. Work with others. Find your spirit tribe, even if it’s only online. Let others be wrong about you. Be honest in the face of injustice. Even if others laugh or belittle you — stand stronger, speak louder, and never quit. Hit pause, but never quit. Rest is necessary for balance. Meditate on problems. Relax and think about what is within your control to change. Never ask, “Why me?” Instead ask, “What can I do?” “What is this teaching me?” Your path is always the right path. ❤️ — Sarah 🌹 #positivevibes #positiveenergy #mindset #progress #goals #Support #positive  Alt text: Black background image with white text that reads: "Uncommon advice: If y...