PGP / SPD My story:

🎉 Facebook recognized me as a consistent post creator this week! Despite the obstacles life keeps throwing my way, I keep showing up and committed to my own goals! 🙏🏻✨   Consistency is the key to success! I did some meditation after dealing with more unwanted and unnecessary negativity this morning and I'm feeling more like my little chirpy dork self again! Mike Davies is doing well post surgery so that's more good news, as he knows we've all been thinking of him and Ayshea Osman you're a star! A huge shout out to The Auckland Shanty Singers too because Joan and Christopher have a sweet spot in my heart! Mad appreciate you lovelies!! 🙏🏻✨☺️ I just want to finish by asking people, if you are gonna comment and say something can you question WHY you're doing it first and if it will help or harm because social media is getting worse and worse and people's ideas of professionalism these days is quite frankly the opposite to how I would define it! Also when som...

Aycliffe Alternative Magazine has been shining a light on our local communities since it began, and that includes supporting organisations doing incredible work across Darlington and the wider area. I'm proud to share Darlington Mind 's article from a previous edition and to highlight the important support they provide within our community. Despite the targeting, false narratives, and difficulties I'm currently facing, I'm still working hard on the June edition of the magazine because local people, groups, charities, businesses, and community projects deserve to be seen and celebrated. It's not always easy when negativity tries to take centre stage, but I refuse to allow that to distract from the positive work happening across our communities. The magazine has always been about giving people a platform, amplifying good causes, and helping communities connect with one another. That remains my focus. Thank you to everyone who continues to support the magazine, contr...

Kindness... My ex-abuser was handed court papers yesterday. At the same time, I find myself suffocating under the weight of other people's judgement, assumptions, lack of fact-checking, and lack of compassion. And honestly? I'm tired. Can we have some kindness back, please? Because behind every profile, page, blog, business, group, and public post is a human being. A real person. 🙏🏻✨ A person carrying things you may know nothing about. You don't know what someone is facing behind closed doors. You don't know what battles they're fighting, what trauma they're processing, what legal proceedings they're navigating, what health issues they're enduring, or how much strength it took for them to simply get out of bed that morning. Yet so many people seem comfortable judging, criticising, gossiping, and piling on without ever stopping to ask whether they're being fair. As someone with ADHD and autism, I feel things deeply. Disrespect, dishonesty...

Rumination and AuDhd. I'm still wondering what "agenda" people think I have... 👉🏻👈🏻 ...I hate people sometimes - they don't care how they impact others. I also hate vague comments and mystery, I'm gonna be ruminating on this all night, wondering what sort of agenda I am rumoured to have. I also shared an Advocacy post not the abuse update blog - to groups - but I can spit facts till the cows come home and no one cares and no one listens as people just prefer to judge. Why is this the life lesson I have to keep learning, that people will treat you unkindly and believe false narratives? That abusers will be forever supported and flying monkeys will forever flock together to harm individuals and other aspects of your own communities not only allow this, but support this. I do not like the way this world is. People deserve better than this. I didn't get out of my bedbound and housebound situation to be sabotaged, it's not my fault when people choose sides ...

"This is what surviving looks like. Not strong in the dramatic Hollywood sense. Strong in the sense of carrying chronic pain, trauma, neurodivergence, loneliness, judgement, anxiety, and depression every day and still choosing to wake up tomorrow." When you can't express or articulate it, create it. Sarah Wingfield ❤️  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #art #arttherapy #expression #selflove #keepgoing  Alt Text: Digital artwork depicting a curled-up feminine figure with bright pink hair sitting against a vivid pink and purple background. The figure hugs a pink heart-shaped cushion while surrounded by flowing black and white scribbles symbolising chaotic thoughts and emotions. Words written across the body and around the figure include "ADHD," "Autism," "CPTSD," "Anxiety," "Chronic," "Depression," "Judgement," "Invisible," "Alone," and "Bad Thoughts." Across the cheek is the phrase "...

The #CourtOfSocialMedia has spoken. #Judge #Jury and #Executioner ...and I'm still proud of me. ❤️✨ This isn't new to me. 🙏🏻✨ I'm neurodivergent. I've spent much of my life watching people rush to conclusions, make assumptions, and form opinions before all the facts are known. I've seen victims blamed. I've seen rumours spread faster than evidence. I've seen narratives become accepted as truth simply because they were repeated often enough. Abuse is often loud. Self-defence can get lost in the noise and judged as harshly as the behaviour it is responding to. The world isn't always fair. I blog about both my highs and my lows because I believe in transparency and authenticity. I want people facing similar hardships to know they are not alone. I've been accused of having an "agenda" more times than I can count. If supporting local people, advocating for disability rights, amplifying community voices, and speaking against abuse is an agenda,...

Just a heartbroken statement from an advocate: People need to analyse situations more carefully and with due diligence. As disappointed as I am, I am absolutely not surprised. I will always defend myself, and I will always defend others when I believe they are being treated unfairly. I will also continue to speak out against abuse, harassment, and harmful behaviour whenever I encounter it. What I will not do is spend my life repeatedly proving decades of actions, advocacy, and work to people who have already decided who they think I am after a few moments, a screenshot, or a rumour. One thing people often misunderstand about me is that I do not revisit closed doors. When a decision has been made, I accept it and move forward. Ironically, that is the complete opposite of the situation I currently find myself dealing with. At times, I feel as though I am drowning beneath assumptions, accusations, and narratives that bear little resemblance to reality. I wish more people took the time to ...

Important Announcement: Some unfortunate but true #facts: I have blocked all individuals involved. I have repeatedly asked to be left alone and have taken multiple steps to disengage from all abusive situations. I have never received a police caution and I do not have a criminal record. I stand by challenging harmful behaviour within organisations and communities. If speaking up to protect others attracts criticism, that is something I am prepared to accept. Defending yourself against serious allegations, correcting misinformation, and providing evidence to support your position is not the same as targeting , harassing , or pursuing other people. Such behaviour is something I do not condone and consider entirely unnecessary . What I have experienced is repeated unwanted attention, public discussions about me after boundaries were clearly established, threats, doxxing, hostile comments, attempts to draw others into the situation, and statements that have caused me genuine con...

Community Groups I run and support: Transparency matters. ❤️ Challenging false allegations. People sometimes see a page, a group, a post, or a comment and don't realise how much work happens behind the scenes. For transparency, these are some of the communities I currently manage and support. The two largest community groups are: 📍 Aycliffe Uncensored – a group I created myself and have developed over time. 📍 Living in and around Darlington UK – a group that was entrusted to me to manage and continue running. Alongside these, I also manage and support other communities focused on disability advocacy, health and wellbeing, photography, community support, and my own creative and professional work. Community management isn't simply approving posts. It involves safeguarding, reviewing reports, handling disputes, supporting vulnerable members, maintaining standards, and helping to ensure communities remain safe and welcoming spaces. The work is often unpaid, largely unseen, and at...

Today should be a day of celebration.  After years of hard work, consistency, determination, and refusing to give up, my stickers finally arrived for my autograph packages. ❤️ They represent two parts of my life that I have poured my heart into: creativity and advocacy. They represent the people I've supported, the voices I've amplified, the causes I've stood up for, and the dreams I've continued to chase even when life made things difficult. But if I'm honest, this past week has been relentless. I think people sometimes forget that behind every profile, page, group, blog, or business is a human being. It's difficult to fully celebrate something you've been excited about when you're simultaneously navigating health battles, recovering from targeted behaviour, dealing with family wounds, and preparing for court proceedings connected to past abuse. Today, when these arrived, I expected to feel excited. Instead, I mostly felt tired. And that's okay. Bec...

Online Conduct Has Real-World Consequences: One of the most common misconceptions I see online is the belief that behaviour only matters if someone is directly tagged, named, or if comments are made within a specific group. That simply isn't true. Social media platforms are interconnected spaces. Whether a comment is made on a personal profile, in a public group, on a page, or within a community discussion, the impact can still be very real. People do not need to be directly tagged for discussions to affect them. People do not need to be named for others to know who is being discussed. Context matters. When conversations become focused on individuals rather than issues, the impact can extend far beyond the original post. Rumours spread. Hostility grows. Assumptions are made. People begin taking sides based on partial information rather than evidence. This is particularly important when discussing safeguarding, community management, moderation, advocacy, or any situation involving v...

The Flowers: A lot of eyewitnesses are seeing exactly what I'm having to deal with and reaching out with support behind the scenes. There was a time when I had to face abusive behaviour unsupported and alone. That time no longer exists. I am incredibly grateful to be surrounded by thoughtful, logical people who can see what is really happening and who continue to send guidance, kindness, and support. Today, I broke down crying. Not because of those trying to cause harm, but because I was overwhelmed by the amount of support I have received while facing yet another difficult situation created by the choices of other people. Peter handed me these beautiful flowers after seeing the threats, hostility, and harmful behaviour that have been directed towards me. For a moment, he thought he had upset me. In reality, I was simply overwhelmed by feeling cared for. Yes, I am continuing to log evidence and report matters appropriately. Yes, I am removing people who publicly support threats, vi...

Why Advocacy Matters 💜 As an advocate, one of the hardest lessons I had to learn was how to advocate for myself. Helping others always came naturally. Standing up for vulnerable people, challenging unfair treatment, supporting those who felt unheard, and amplifying voices that were being ignored felt easy compared to speaking up for my own needs. Today, that has changed. I am proud to advocate for others, but I am equally proud to advocate for myself. Unfortunately, self-advocacy is often misunderstood. People who set boundaries, speak up, promote their work, challenge discrimination, or refuse to stay silent are often labelled selfish, narcissistic, attention-seeking, or worse. The reality is very different. Self-advocacy is not about ego. It is about recognising your own worth and understanding that your voice matters too. When disabled people, survivors, neurodivergent individuals, or anyone facing adversity speak up, they are not asking for special treatment. They are asking for d...

The Gretna Green, Great Grub & Birthday Retreat Daydreams: Yesterday, Peter took me for some lovely food at Gretna Green in Newton Aycliffe. 💜 This place holds a lot of fond memories for me, and the staff are always welcoming, friendly, and helpful, even when they're rushed off their feet. Life hasn't exactly been gentle lately. I've had some incredibly difficult pain days, moments where my body has completely seized up, very little sleep, and more than my fair share of negativity directed my way. Yet I keep showing up, keep supporting others, and keep moving forward. One thing I've learned is that some people only know how to tear others down, while others know how to build people up. I'm choosing to focus on the people who support, encourage, and care. Last night I was awake until 6am after a bit of gaming on Avakin Life, but what kept me going through the early hours was daydreaming about my birthday weekend in July. 🌿✨ Peter now has a small mountain of Boo...

Abuse Update: People continue to send me screenshots of a man I have blocked, along with posts and comments from those supporting or participating in the same behaviour, whom I have also blocked. I understand that not everyone will agree with me, my decisions, or the work I do, and that's absolutely okay. However, there is a difference between constructive criticism and personal attacks. Healthy communities thrive on discussion, accountability, and respectful disagreement. They do not benefit from insults, rumours, intimidation, harassment, stalking, or attempts to provoke conflict. I have seen claims suggesting that certain individuals were blocked simply for disagreeing with me. I hold evidence that demonstrates a different sequence of events. The individuals concerned were blocked following behaviour that I considered abusive, hostile, or repeatedly targeted towards me. The decision was based on conduct and boundaries, not on disagreement or differences of opinion. Evidence matt...

🚽💖 NEW ART VIDEO DROP! 💖🚽 The artwork for "Unflushables" is officially here! 🎨✨ This song is dedicated to those people who just won't go away... the drama-stirrers, boundary-pushers, serial lurkers, and professional nonsense spreaders. You block them, mute them, ignore them... and somehow they're still floating around causing chaos. 😅 So I decided to turn that frustration into something fun, colourful, and a little bit ridiculous. Featuring: 💩 An angry pink unflushable 🪰 A couple of suspicious flies 🚽 Toilet humour 🎵 A catchy beat 💖 Classic K•Doll chaos Creating the artwork was honestly as much fun as making the song itself. Sometimes the best way to deal with negativity is to laugh at it and turn it into art. If you've ever had someone who couldn't take the hint, wouldn't respect boundaries, or kept popping back up when nobody asked them to... this one's for you. 😂 🎨 Artwork by K•Doll 🎵 "Unflushables" – K•Doll x Mai★ KDoll 🔥🪓...

🌈✨ NEW ART DROP – SUMMER KISSES ✨ Pride Month is here, summer is calling, and K•Doll is bringing the colour, confidence, and kawaii magic. 💖🧚‍♀️ "Summer Kisses" is all about self-expression, freedom, individuality, and embracing the version of yourself that shines brightest. Whether you're celebrating Pride, enjoying the sunshine, or simply learning to love yourself a little more, this piece is for you. Everyone has a K•Doll hidden within... awaken yours. ✨ 🌸 Kawaii • Decora • Fairycore • Pride Vibes • Summer Energy 🌸 Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Kawaii Doll Decora 🩷✨ 💻 KawaiiDollDecora.uk #PrideMonth #Pride2026 #KawaiiDollDecora #KDoll #SummerKisses #KawaiiArt #DigitalArt #Fairycore #DecoraFashion #PastelAesthetic #AnimeArt #PrideArt #LGBTQIA #ArtistOnInstagram #ArtistOnFacebook #IndependentArtist #FantasyArt #CuteArt #PinkAesthetic #AlternativeFashion #SelfExpression #BeYourself #CreativeCommunity #SummerVibes #FairyWings #MagicalGirl #KawaiiCulture #SupportArtists #UKArt...

What To Do When You're the Target of a Hate Campaign By Sarah Wingfield. Most people imagine hate campaigns as something that happens to celebrities, politicians, or people in the public eye. The reality is that they can happen to anyone. A volunteer. An advocate. A business owner. A community organiser. A disabled person speaking up. Someone who simply challenged harmful behaviour and refused to back down. Over the years, I've experienced organised hostility, online pile-ons, false allegations, misinformation, character attacks, stalking behaviours, harassment, and attempts to isolate me from communities I cared about. What I've learned is that hate campaigns often follow recognisable patterns. Understanding those patterns can help people protect themselves and avoid becoming part of the problem. What Is a Hate Campaign? A hate campaign is a sustained effort to damage someone's reputation, credibility, relationships, opportunities, or wellbeing. Sometimes it is highly ...

Things Disabled People Would Love to Hear For many disabled people, inclusion is not measured by grand gestures, expensive policies, or awareness campaigns. It is measured by the small moments. The everyday interactions. The conversations that either remind us we belong, or remind us that the world was never designed with us in mind. As a disabled advocate, ambulatory wheelchair user, and someone who has spent years navigating inaccessible systems, I can tell you that the words people remember most are often the simplest. Not because they are extraordinary. Because they are rare. "What are your accommodation needs?" This question immediately shifts the focus from assumptions to understanding. Too often, disabled people are expected to fit into environments that were never designed for them. We are expected to adapt, struggle quietly, or repeatedly explain ourselves. When someone asks what adjustments would help, they are sending a powerful message: "Your participation ma...

The same cycles: Every day feels like the same cycle. I work hard. I sacrifice. I give my time, my energy, my lived experience, and my voice to causes I genuinely care about. Yet alongside the good, there always seems to be another obstacle waiting. Backlash. Criticism. Abuse. Ostracism. False allegations. Hate campaigns. Rejections. Opportunities disappearing without explanation. What I struggle to understand is why so many people choose to add to someone else's burden rather than lighten it. Life is already difficult enough. Many disabled people are already fighting battles most never see. We navigate pain, fatigue, accessibility barriers, discrimination, financial pressures, and health challenges every single day. Advocacy doesn't remove those struggles; it often adds to them. Yet despite that, we keep showing up. We speak up when it's easier to stay silent. We challenge injustice when it's easier to look away. We support others even when we ourselves are struggling....

This is genuinely heartbreaking. 💔 Recently, I needed to access a domestic abuse awareness video case study I created after completing a course with Learning Curve Group. The video was used to raise awareness, support survivors, and encourage education around domestic abuse. Today I discovered it has been removed. No notification. No conversation. No explanation. No opportunity to save a copy. This has a detrimental impact on my blogging and sharing of the video, as people can no longer access or benefit from the content. As a disabled advocate , this is becoming a painfully familiar experience. I find organisations to support. I give my time at cost. I arrange transport despite my disabilities. I push through pain, fatigue, accessibility barriers, anxiety, and health conditions because I genuinely believe in making a difference. I show up. I do the work. I advocate. I amplify their messages. Then, without warning, the work disappears. It feels eerily similar to what happened with Dur...