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Why Pride is still needed:

Why Pride is still needed: Pride is still needed because legal equality does not automatically mean lived equality. LGBTQ+ people can still experience bullying, harassment, discrimination, rejection from family, hate crime and hostility simply for being who they are. Trans people in particular are currently at the centre of intense public and political debate, and young LGBTQ+ people can grow up hearing that their identity is something shameful, controversial or unacceptable. Pride is therefore about more than celebration. It is about visibility, community, remembrance and the freedom to exist without fear. It remembers people who fought for rights that many now take for granted, honours those who suffered or died because of prejudice, and gives isolated people a chance to see that they are not alone. Supporting Pride also doesn't require everyone to have identical beliefs about every issue involving sex, gender, sexuality or policy. People can disagree respectfully on difficult qu...

My Creepy Cafe Podcast:

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My Creepy Cafe Announcement: It is with a heavy heart that I’ve made the decision to step away from My Creepy Café Show and my involvement with the podcast and Peter King going forward. I’m grateful for the time, creativity and conversations that have gone into the project, and I genuinely wish everyone involved the very best with whatever direction they choose to take it. For me, this decision comes down to professional differences in how projects are developed, organised and brought forward publicly. I believe strongly in having a clear structure, completed groundwork and realistic plans in place before promoting, casting or committing people to a project. At this stage, I feel my own professional approach and priorities are moving in a different direction. I’m also focusing more of my time and energy on my own writing, film, magazine and creative commitments, so stepping away feels like the right and responsible decision. There is no ill will from me, and I hope the project continue...

A Heartfelt Thank You for the Kindness ❤️:

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A Heartfelt Thank You for the Kindness ❤️ It’s always so lovely when people take the time to reach out to me privately with kindness, gratitude, encouragement or support. ❤️ Over the past month especially, I’ve received so many genuinely thoughtful, supportive and positive messages that I felt I needed to stop for a moment and acknowledge them all. Some people have reached out simply to check in on me or send a few kind words. Others have messaged to thank me for helping them personally, for speaking up about something that mattered to them, for sharing information that helped them, or simply for continuing to do the work that I do. Those messages mean an incredible amount to me. When somebody tells me that I’ve helped them, supported them, encouraged them, given them useful information, made them feel heard, or made some kind of positive difference in their life, I never take that lightly. The same goes for the people who have reached out just to say, “thank you for what you do.” Whet...

I Care Because I Know What It Means to Need Support

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I Care Because I Know What It Means to Need Support: I Care Because I Know What It Means to Need Support I restarted blogging while I was pregnant, but my instinct to advocate for others started long before that. For most of my life, I have spoken up when something felt unfair, harmful or inaccessible. I have raised awareness of disability, challenged barriers, supported people through difficult situations and tried to use my experiences to create something positive. This collage holds so many chapters of my life. It shows pregnancy and motherhood. It shows disability, mobility aids and moments when simply getting through the day required determination. It shows hospital visits and the years in which I supported my son through Acute Lymphoblastic Leukaemia. It also shows campaigning, protest, awareness work and the gradual development of the advocate I am today. Behind every photograph is a story. Some are filled with love and joy. Others represent fear, exhaustion, pain and circumstan...

High Force Waterfall — 11th July 2026, 14:20hrs

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High Force Waterfall — 11th July 2026, 14:20hrs. I am now releasing the footage from my visit to High Force Waterfall on 11th July 2026. The private video link sent directly to High Force has already been viewed 12 times, so they have had ample opportunity to see and consider the footage for themselves. I raised my concerns because what happened affected me in real life as a disabled visitor. I expected those concerns to be taken seriously, investigated fairly and handled with compassion. Instead, I was left feeling as though my account was being questioned and my lived experience dismissed. Statements were apparently relied upon to suggest that my description of events was inaccurate, yet when I asked to see appropriately redacted copies of those statements, I received no meaningful response. Since challenging the way my complaint was handled, I have seemingly been ghosted. That silence matters. Disabled people are already accused far too often of exaggerating, inventing or misreprese...

Behind the scenes: K•Doll and Crowns:

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K•Doll's Ex Ex (Execute the Fool) music track is a rebellion against manipulation and false power. EX EX (EXECUTE THE FOOL): TAKE BACK THE CROWN K•Doll’s “Ex Ex (Execute the Fool)” is more than a music track—it is a rebellion against manipulation, false authority and the people who mistake control for power. The crown represents status, dominance and the illusion of superiority. Taking it is not about becoming the villain. It is about exposing the fool who never deserved the throne. It symbolises reclaiming your strength. Breaking the illusion. Refusing to shrink. Refusing to remain beneath someone who built their power by manipulating, intimidating or diminishing others. Sometimes, taking back your life means removing the crown from the person who convinced you that they were untouchable. It means recognising that their power only existed while you believed in it. The moment you stop bowing, their kingdom falls. “Ex Ex” channels that turning point—the moment pain becomes power, co...

AFK:

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AFK: Just a little heads-up to my friends ❤️ I’m going to be away from Facebook until Tuesday afternoon / Wednesday. 🙏🏻✨ Right now, I need to focus on my personal growth and the important goals ahead of me. I can’t afford any negative distractions. Other people can do whatever they choose, but they cannot steal my happiness, my focus or my determination. Until the targeting dies down and people eventually lose interest, I’m taking a few days to protect my peace, clear my head and smash some personal targets. I don’t want to let myself or anyone else down. What’s coming up is extremely important to me, and I have sacrificed far too much and worked far too hard to become distracted when I need my head fully in the game. Thank you for understanding. I’ll be back after Tuesday and ready to refocus on the magazine. ❤️ Sarah Wingfield ❤️  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #wishmeluck #hardwork #sacrifice #driving #disabled #independence #goals  Alt text: Graphic for the Learn to Drive Hubb app...

Celebrating how far I've come:

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Celebrating how far I've come: I’ve come such a long way. I know success is defined differently depending on who you ask, but since rebuilding my mobility and getting out of my wheelchair, I’ve had so many achievements to celebrate. ❤️ I’ve been featured in publications and media, worked as an actor, producer and filmmaker, appeared in movies and independent film projects, written blogs and books, created and released music, designed artwork and products, modelled, performed, spoken publicly and continued developing my own creative projects. Alongside that, I’ve spent years advocating for disabled people, survivors and vulnerable members of our communities. I’ve supported individuals through difficult situations, completed safeguarding and advocacy training, volunteered with charities and community organisations, founded support spaces, helped manage large online communities, created Aycliffe Alternative Magazine and used my platforms to raise awareness, celebrate local talent and ...

My Boundaries Remain in Place:

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My Boundaries Remain in Place: Today, I need to refocus on my driving as I prepare for my practical test. The noise, hostility and abusive distractions are not welcome. I keep reminding myself that storms pass. Until this situation is resolved, I will continue blocking anyone who brings hostility, harassment or personal attacks into my spaces. I am entitled to decide which people, organisations and community projects I promote on my own platforms. Our communities deserve spaces where people feel protected, respected and properly safeguarded. Because I have previously been harmed by organisations that were supposed to support me, I take concerns about conduct, accountability and positions of responsibility extremely seriously. I will not promote an organisation while I have unresolved concerns about the conduct of people affiliated with it, particularly where that conduct has caused me significant distress. That is a personal safeguarding boundary, not an instruction telling anyone else...

Family Time:

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Family Time: I had a wonderful day yesterday with my son, Brandon. ❤️ He had such a difficult start in life and has overcome so many obstacles, including leukaemia. The young man he has become inspires me every day. He is intelligent, creative and endlessly fascinating, and I will always be incredibly proud to be his mam. Yesterday, he introduced us to the work of Kane Pixels and explained how he developed his interpretation of The Backrooms. We watched some of Kane’s earlier footage while Brandon enthusiastically talked us through the story, ideas and filmmaking behind it. Brandon loves everything connected to creepypasta, horror and mysterious online worlds, and I love seeing how passionate and knowledgeable he becomes when discussing the things that interest him. I had missed him and my parents so much. I have been exceptionally busy and working incredibly hard behind the scenes, so this much-needed family catch-up meant the world to me. We also enjoyed a lovely meal together at The...

Good Food, Beautiful Views and Lovely Service at The New Board Inn:

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Good Food, Beautiful Views and Lovely Service at The New Board Inn: Today, we visited The New Board Inn Pub & Restaurant, and it was exactly the kind of peaceful and enjoyable experience I needed. From the moment we arrived, the staff were incredibly kind, polite and helpful. We were made to feel welcome straight away, and the friendly service added so much to the experience. Nothing felt like too much trouble, and we were treated with genuine warmth throughout our visit. We had a lovely table beside the windows, with beautiful views stretching across the surrounding countryside. There is something especially calming about enjoying good food while looking out over open fields beneath a bright summer sky. The food was beautifully presented, with generous portions and plenty of choice. Our table included crispy battered fish with chunky chips and mushy peas, golden potato wedges with dips, prawns served with fresh greens and lemon, soup with bread, and a colourful salad alongside a c...

My Boundaries Are Not Up for Debate:

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My Boundaries Are Not Up for Debate: I will not apologise for safeguarding others, setting boundaries or asking for accountability. I do not tolerate bullying, victim-blaming or harmful behaviour. My focus is on my personal growth, my goals and supporting others — and I strongly recommend that others focus on their own lives rather than shaming people for speaking about harm. As a disabled and AuDHD woman, I carved out my own space in a world that often made me feel unwelcome. I found my people, built communities of my own and developed values that I stand by. I will not be bullied, manipulated or coerced into allowing unsafe individuals, toxic organisations or harmful behaviour into the spaces I have worked so hard to create. My safe spaces matter, and so does the safety of the people within them. I will protect every safe space I have built — fiercely. Had the behaviour towards me not been as serious as it was, I would have been perfectly willing to support and promote any organisati...

I Emailed the Prime Minister to Demand Action on Systemic Ableism:

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I Emailed the Prime Minister to Demand Action on Systemic Ableism I emailed our Prime Minister because I can already see disabled people being targeted. Our community deserves to be supported—not blamed, punished or harmed further. Disabled people face entrenched barriers in employment, higher living costs and persistent discrimination, yet public debate too often treats us as the problem. This is what I sent: " Dear Prime Minister, I am writing to urge your government to take meaningful action against systemic ableism and create stronger incentives for employers to recruit, retain and promote disabled people. Disabled people continue to encounter significant barriers to employment, including inaccessible recruitment processes, discrimination, inadequate workplace adjustments and assumptions about our abilities. Even when disabled people secure paid employment, many experience lower pay and fewer opportunities for progression. Disability also brings substantial additional living c...

Sunflower Lanyard Matters:

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"Should people really have to verify they're disabled by wearing a sunflower lanyard?" Me: No, but considering some people seem to think my walking stick is a fashion accessory, it doesn't hurt to remind people that they can't diagnose invisible conditions, fractures, dislocations, internal swelling, or any other medical condition with their eyes. People can be incredibly ignorant. If wearing a Sunflower Lanyard helps remind others that not every disability is visible and encourages a little more patience and respect, then that's no bad thing. Respect shouldn't have to be earned by proving you're disabled, but until society stops judging people by appearances, anything that helps challenge those assumptions has value. Sarah Wingfield ❤️  #sunflowerlanyard #dynamicdisabilities Alt text: Selfie of a woman with long pastel pink hair wearing pink-tinted glasses and making a peace sign toward the camera. She is wearing a green Sunflower Lanyard around her n...

Something exciting is coming...

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🎪 Something exciting is coming... 👀 I'm so excited to finally share that I'll be performing a surprise 15-minute set somewhere in the UK this year! 🎤✨ For now, the location and date are staying under wraps... 🤫🔒 All will be revealed soon, so keep your eyes peeled for the official announcement. I can't wait to share this moment with you all! Who's ready? 🎭💚🩷 WHOOP WHOOP!  MMFWCL4LIFE 🤡🃏🎪 KDoll 🔥🪓 #KDoll #LivePerformance #SurpriseAnnouncement #SecretGig #AlternativeMusic #Horrorcore #DarkMusic #IndependentArtist #UKMusic #LiveMusic #MusicCommunity #Goth #AltScene #Emo #Performance #KeepEyesPeeled #ComingSoon #WatchThisSpace Alt text: Square promotional poster featuring K•Doll in dramatic clown-inspired makeup with pastel pink and lavender hair against a dark carnival-themed background. The poster announces a surprise 15-minute live set taking place somewhere in the UK this year, with the location and date to be disclosed later. The design uses bold neon pink...

Nova Consilia Centre:

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Re: Nova Consilia Centre: I can't honestly support this start-up organisation due to a direct conflict of interest. The organisation's founder is involved in an ongoing police-reported cyberstalking and harassment matter concerning me. As saddening as this is, safeguarding always has to come first. To avoid a conflict of interest and in the interests of safeguarding, I cannot approve or promote content relating to this organisation. Thank you for your understanding. Sarah Wingfield Actor • Author • Advocate KawaiiDollDecora.uk #safeguarding #community #novaconsilia #darlington Alt text: A cropped screenshot of a Facebook post preview from the Nova Consilia Centre page, shared by CJC Barbers. The preview headline reads, "HELP US OPEN DARLINGTON'S COMMUNITY CAFÉ" in large bold text, surrounded by coffee cup and sparkle emojis. A blue "Join" button appears beside the page name at the top. UPDATE: for clarification: To those angry-reacting or laughing—which ...

Copyright theft, Intent to Harm & Meta:

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Copyright theft, Intent to Harm & Meta: I'm so frustrated : Meta has declined one of my copyright reports regarding over 20 incidents where my content was copied and redistributed without my consent, with the intent to cause harm, on the basis that they believe the content may fall under commentary, criticism or parody. My concern is that this decision appears to have been made without considering the wider context. The images form part of an ongoing police-reported cyberstalking investigation, involve my copyrighted photography and branding, and are accompanied by behaviour including repeated image theft, threats and unwanted contact. I've submitted evidence relating to each individual incident and respectfully ask Meta to conduct a full review of the complete evidence rather than assessing individual posts in isolation. Where there is an ongoing pattern of alleged harassment, context matters. I hope Meta's specialist teams will review all of the evidence, apply their ...

Beamish Museum Accessibility:

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Beamish Museum : 7/10 for accessibility: Today was an amazing day at Beamish Museum and I somehow managed an agonising 5,000 steps! 🥹💛 I can cry about it later 😂 but I'm genuinely proud of myself. Every step is part of my personal growth.  My disabilities are dynamic, which means some days are much harder than others, but I'm determined to keep moving forward. The ableist attitudes I've experienced over the years won't define what I'm capable of achieving. I let people misjudge me these days, it's easier ahaha. Beamish was fantastic.  The staff and visitors were lovely, respectful and it was wonderful seeing so many people of all ages enjoying themselves. The vintage streets, historic buildings and beautiful Art Deco theatre lighting made it such a special place to explore. It was busy with queues in some of the shops, but I brought my foldable stool for accessibility and only needed to use it once, which felt like a huge achievement. Small things like that m...

Daggers Inn - Available to watch now:

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Daggers Inn - Available to watch now: 9/10 – A Fantastic Showcase of Independent British Filmmaking -Raya Films. Daggers Inn is an atmospheric mystery that combines suspense, dark humour and supernatural intrigue in a way that feels distinctly British. The rural setting creates a constant sense of mystery, while the cinematography makes excellent use of the beautiful locations. Anna Danvers delivers a strong lead performance as Donna Revan, supported by a talented cast who bring the film's intriguing world to life. The story unfolds at a steady pace, gradually revealing its secrets while maintaining an engaging atmosphere throughout. One of the things I admire most is the passion behind the project and just how beautifully it has been shot. Every frame feels like a piece of art. Independent filmmaking takes enormous commitment, creativity and determination, and Daggers Inn is a wonderful example of what can be achieved by people who genuinely believe in the stories they want to tel...

Why The Sunflower Lanyard Matters:

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  🌻 Accessibility & Disability – Why the Sunflower Lanyard Matters 🌻 The Hidden Disabilities Sunflower is a simple but powerful way for people with non-visible disabilities and conditions to discreetly signal that they may need additional support, understanding or patience. As someone who is autistic, has ADHD, hEDS, POTS and lives with chronic pain, my Sunflower lanyard has helped me communicate needs that aren't always obvious. Not every disability is visible, and a little kindness can make a huge difference. The new Sunflower Extra initiative gives people another way to communicate important accessibility information, helping businesses and organisations provide more personalised support while promoting inclusion. Accessibility isn't about giving people special treatment—it's about removing unnecessary barriers so everyone has the opportunity to participate with dignity. 💚 Be patient. 🌻 Be understanding. ♿ Remember that disabilities come in many forms. Sarah Wing...

Free document for Aspiring Filmmakers:

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Free document for Aspiring Filmmakers: 📥 Free Download: Script Breakdown Checklist (Per Scene) One of the biggest lessons I've learned while working in pre-production is that a thorough script breakdown can save countless hours later in the filmmaking process. To help other filmmakers, producers, assistant directors, production managers and film students, I've created my own Script Breakdown Checklist (Per Scene). This checklist has been designed to prompt you through every scene of a script, helping you identify everything your production may need before you get to set. It covers far more than just cast and props, including: - Scene analysis and story purpose - Cast, extras and stunt requirements - Wardrobe, hair and makeup - Props, set dressing and special effects - Camera, lighting and sound - Locations and accessibility - Vehicles, animals and specialist departments - Health & Safety, risk assessments and PAT testing - Licences, permits, insurance and legal considerati...

Choosing Growth Every Day:

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  ~Choosing Growth Every Day~ Happy Friday everyone! 💛 I hope you all have a wonderful Friday and an even better weekend. This weekend I'll be working on script breakdowns, revising for my driving test and continuing to move several exciting projects forward. Every day is another opportunity to learn, improve and take one more step towards the future I'm building. One thing I've learned is that growth is a choice. It's choosing healthier habits. It's choosing to keep learning. It's choosing to protect your peace. It's choosing to keep moving forward, even when life hasn't always been easy. I'm really pleased to have signed up for the Resilience programme at Pioneering Care Partnership (PCP), where I'll be taking part in sessions to continue developing healthier ways of managing conflict, building resilience and strengthening my wellbeing. None of us stop growing, and I think that's something worth celebrating. My health journey is also cont...

Be the Change - Mental Health Certificate:

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Be the Change - Mental Health Certificate: Well a free mental health support course is always #welcomed. https://www.betherecertificate.org/ Get yours now as part of the Born This Way Foundation and Jack.org. With HUGE thanks. Sarah Wingfield  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealtheducation 

The Briefcase:

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The Briefcase: Every person working on a script should have a lockable briefcase! 🎬🕵🏻‍♀️ Not only does it make you feel like you're some kind of secret agent (which I'm absolutely embracing 😂), but it's also an amazing way to keep your work organised and take it wherever you go. Now I just need a few power suits to complete the look! 😆 Joking aside, this has been perfect for the movie script breakdown I'm currently working on. Everything has its place, and because it expands, there's plenty of room to add more documents as the project grows. As an autistic person, staying organised really helps me. Having everything together means I can easily pick up where I left off without feeling overwhelmed, which makes such a difference when working on larger creative projects. A huge thank you to my Dad for thinking of me and giving me this brilliant briefcase. 🥹❤️ I'm genuinely so grateful. It's going to take a little while to finish the script breakdown, but I...

The Truth about my false community protection notice:

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The Truth about my false community protection notice: Since those targeting me are sharing my documents under false pretences - I decided to be brave enough to clarify: I couldn't do a video interview about one of my experiences of sexual assault because I was worried about retaliation. I didn't feel protected from that risk, and I stand with all survivors. 💜💜💜 I tried to seek help from a local support group, but in my experience they breached a verbal agreement between the police, the group and myself to remain impartial regarding another incident. After I left, I believe some members were encouraged by the group's facilitator to make false allegations about me, which led to an unsigned and undated Community Protection Notice being issued. That notice has since expired, yet people who have been targeting me online continue to circulate it under false pretences. What is particularly upsetting is seeing people repeat claims without understanding the circumstances. The inf...

Growth starts with Accountability:

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Remember: Growth starts with accountability. I have never been diagnosed with, or experienced, paranoia. I also experience no side effects from my prescribed medical cannabis, none, which I use exactly as directed to manage chronic pain. My treatment is well documented and monitored by the medical professionals involved in my care. Ignorant assumptions are part of the problem. When someone leads with assumptions instead of curiosity, facts rarely change their mind because they weren't interested in the facts to begin with. Yes, I'm still annoyed about yesterday. I'm human, and I'm doing my best. That's all any of us can do. Sometimes it's okay to admit you got something wrong. I know I do. I'm proud I fix myself when I'm the issue and when others don't want resolution, like I do - I step away. Accountability means caring enough to reflect, apologise when necessary, and do better.  An apology isn't just words; it includes changed behaviour.  Real...

Outgrowing Pains:

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Outgrowing Pains: No one tells you about the part of healing and self-growth that hurts. As you grow, you outgrow people who are illogical, lack self-awareness and enable poor behaviour without accountability. You lose a lot, but you also gain so much. I can no longer stand with people who support those targeting others. I no longer tolerate gaslighting, victim blaming or people defending those who invade someone else's lane instead of holding them accountable. I have a strong support network now. I have amazing friends, and there are far more decent people in my life than those who choose negativity. The old abusive rhetoric that the person being targeted must somehow be the problem, while ignoring facts and evidence, is an ugly mindset. I've experienced a lot of abuse, yet I haven't run to admins complaining about people. I let people show me who they are and place them where they belong. If someone is toxic, they don't belong in my life. Imagine believing you're ...