PGP / SPD My story:

Just a heartbroken statement from an advocate: People need to analyse situations more carefully and with due diligence. As disappointed as I am, I am absolutely not surprised. I will always defend myself, and I will always defend others when I believe they are being treated unfairly. I will also continue to speak out against abuse, harassment, and harmful behaviour whenever I encounter it. What I will not do is spend my life repeatedly proving decades of actions, advocacy, and work to people who have already decided who they think I am after a few moments, a screenshot, or a rumour. One thing people often misunderstand about me is that I do not revisit closed doors. When a decision has been made, I accept it and move forward. Ironically, that is the complete opposite of the situation I currently find myself dealing with. At times, I feel as though I am drowning beneath assumptions, accusations, and narratives that bear little resemblance to reality. I wish more people took the time to ...

Why Advocacy Matters 💜 As an advocate, one of the hardest lessons I had to learn was how to advocate for myself. Helping others always came naturally. Standing up for vulnerable people, challenging unfair treatment, supporting those who felt unheard, and amplifying voices that were being ignored felt easy compared to speaking up for my own needs. Today, that has changed. I am proud to advocate for others, but I am equally proud to advocate for myself. Unfortunately, self-advocacy is often misunderstood. People who set boundaries, speak up, promote their work, challenge discrimination, or refuse to stay silent are often labelled selfish, narcissistic, attention-seeking, or worse. The reality is very different. Self-advocacy is not about ego. It is about recognising your own worth and understanding that your voice matters too. When disabled people, survivors, neurodivergent individuals, or anyone facing adversity speak up, they are not asking for special treatment. They are asking for d...

  Psst! Yes.. you! 🫵🏻 ~You don’t have to have it all figured out.~ Read that again. Because somewhere along the way, we were sold this idea that by a certain age we should be healed, stable, successful, confident… complete. And if we’re not? We’re failing. But that’s not truth — that’s pressure. Real life looks like starting over. Like learning things the hard way. Like holding it together one day and falling apart the next. Like growing through things you never should’ve had to survive in the first place. You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re becoming — in real time. Keep going. Even when it’s messy. Keep learning. Even when it hurts. Keep believing. Even when it’s quiet. That’s the real win. 💗 Now I’m curious… What’s ONE life lesson you’d tell your younger self? Think on that because it could be the key to your next steps! Sarah Wingfield ❤️  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #lifeadvice #healingjourney #growthmindset #selfworth #mentalhealthmatters #keepgoing #realgrowth #disab...

Always doing the right thing may be exhausting - but it's necessary. There comes a point where you stop explaining yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you, and instead you start choosing peace over proving a point. Protecting your peace is not cruelty, walking away from harmful behaviour is not hate, and setting boundaries is not something anyone gets to shame you for.  If someone needs to villainise you for choosing distance over dysfunction, that says everything about them and nothing about you. We are grown, we are allowed to step away, we are allowed to choose calm over chaos, and we can do all of that whilst still being respectful.  Not everything needs a fight, not everything needs a response, and not everyone deserves access to you. Respect is not control, inclusion is not coercion, and boundaries are not up for debate. If we don’t align, that’s fine, but respect should always be mutual. KDoll  KawaiiDollDecora.uk ❤️ #disabilityinclusion #stron...

What I’m Learning About Boundaries (And The Times I Still Slip) Boundaries are one of those things that sound simple when you say them out loud, but living them is something else entirely. I’m learning that maintaining boundaries isn’t about getting it right every time, it’s about catching yourself when you don’t. Because I do slip. I still get roped into replies, I still find myself trying to explain, trying to get people to understand, trying to bring facts into conversations that were never about facts in the first place. And that’s where I have to pause and check myself, because the reality is you can’t reason with the unreasonable. Some people are committed to misunderstanding you, committed to twisting things, committed to getting a reaction, and no amount of calm explanation is going to change that. That’s been one of the hardest lessons for me, because I care. I care about truth, I care about fairness, I care about people seeing what actually happened, and that part of me will ...

“Let them.” Not everyone is meant to understand you. Not everyone will choose you. Not everyone will treat you how you deserve. And that’s where your power begins. As Mel Robbins teaches — let them. Let them misunderstand you. Let them leave. Let them show you exactly who they are. Because when you stop chasing, explaining, proving, and overextending… you create space for alignment, peace, and people who don’t require you to shrink. And psychologically? That’s not weakness — that’s regulation. That’s self-worth in action. As Chantal Heide often reinforces — people show you their standards through their behaviour, not their words. So believe what you see. Protect your energy. Choose yourself. Let them. 💕 — Sarah Wingfield ✨ KawaiiDollDecora.uk #LetThem #SelfWorth #EmotionalIntelligence #HealingJourney #Boundaries #Psychology #KnowYourWorth #Strongertogether #DisabilityAdvocate #KawaiiDollDecora Alt Text: A pink, kawaii-style digital graphic with a dreamy pastel background filled with s...

From Argument to Advocacy: My Journey of Healing There was a time when I was quick to argue, always ready to defend myself against anyone who misunderstood me or dismissed my perspective. I carried so much pain, injustice, and frustration that it spilled into the way I communicated. If someone challenged me, I pushed back — hard. Looking back, I can see that this was less about the discussion itself and more about my own need to be heard, believed, and validated. But healing changes you. Today, I no longer argue for the sake of it. I state my points, calmly and clearly, and then I leave it there. Not because I don’t care, but because I’ve learned that not everyone listens to understand. Many people simply talk at others, desperate to push out their own view without really absorbing what’s being said. And that’s okay — healing takes time, and not everyone is there yet. When something doesn’t make sense, I will still challenge it — because I believe our communities deserve better. But I...