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Outgrowing Pains:

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Outgrowing Pains: No one tells you about the part of healing and self-growth that hurts. As you grow, you outgrow people who are illogical, lack self-awareness and enable poor behaviour without accountability. You lose a lot, but you also gain so much. I can no longer stand with people who support those targeting others. I no longer tolerate gaslighting, victim blaming or people defending those who invade someone else's lane instead of holding them accountable. I have a strong support network now. I have amazing friends, and there are far more decent people in my life than those who choose negativity. The old abusive rhetoric that the person being targeted must somehow be the problem, while ignoring facts and evidence, is an ugly mindset. I've experienced a lot of abuse, yet I haven't run to admins complaining about people. I let people show me who they are and place them where they belong. If someone is toxic, they don't belong in my life. Imagine believing you're ...

High Force Waterfall: When Accessibility Is About More Than Ramps

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High Force Waterfall: When Accessibility Is About More Than Ramps After the email I received today, I have made the difficult decision that I will no longer be visiting High Force Waterfall while I remain disabled. That is not a decision I wanted to make. I love nature. I love our countryside. I believe disabled people should be able to enjoy these beautiful places just as much as anyone else. But I also deserve to be treated with dignity when I do. The outcome of my complaint has left me feeling that I am simply not welcome there as a disabled visitor. What upset me most wasn't just the original interaction itself, but that, after a formal investigation, I was left feeling that my experience had not been properly understood. This experience was never about wanting special treatment. It was about wanting to be treated with basic human respect. Before anyone had asked why my partner was carrying a foldable chair, it was refused. Before anyone knew it was a disability aid, assumption...