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Systemic Mislabeling in Healthcare:

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 Autistic people are labelled “abusive” far too easily — especially in medical settings. Being in pain, crying, shutting down, or struggling to communicate is not abuse. Autistic distress is not aggression. I’ve had medical records filled with claims that I was “abusive” while I was literally immobilised in hospital — unable to move, in severe pain, and being shouted at. I couldn’t have hurt a fly. Yet I’m the one who left with bruises as a disabled patient. Those labels don’t just disappear. They follow you. They affect how future professionals treat you, whether you’re believed, and whether you get help at all. This is what happens when systems mistake disability and trauma responses for “bad behaviour”. It’s harmful, it’s lazy, and it puts disabled people at risk. Distress is not abuse. Crying is not violence. Autism is not a character flaw. Sarah Wingfield  Independent Disability Advocate  #chronicillnesswarrior #autismawareness #disabilityinclusion #strongertogether ...

Scream Team Reunion Movie:

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The Scream Team Reunion  Video update: I am so proud to announce that Simon Hall has come on board as Director, Producer and Casting Director, and will be playing 'Jack Lawson' in #ScreamTeamReunion. Let's welcome Simon to the project! Sarah Wingfield | Sarah Wingfield Actress / Producer Alt text: Close-up portrait of a middle-aged bald man with a short grey-brown beard and serious expression, photographed against a black background. He is wearing a textured brown fleece or coat. White text in the lower-left corner reads “Simon Hall” on one line and “Scream Team Reunion” beneath it. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt39222547/?ref_=ext_shr Poster Alt Text: Black-and-white promotional poster titled “The Scream Team Reunion” with the subtitle “The Scream Team Is the Dream Team.” The design features three horizontal photographic panels showing blurred, high-contrast figures behind translucent surfaces: at the top, a face pressed upward beneath fabric or plastic; in the middle, a sil...

When People Speak Out:

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 When people speak out, they are doing so to seek resolution and solutions. If someone chooses to remain anonymous, that is a protective and safeguarding measure. It is actually slanderous to assume that anonymous complaints are themselves slander, when the clear intent is to raise concerns, resolve issues, and highlight harm that needs addressing. When people ask for modern-day accountability, it is rarely achieved. Anonymity often provides essential protection for those highlighting genuine issues — especially in environments where people become so loyal to organisations or companies that they attack the complainant instead of allowing harm to be acknowledged and rectified. Feedback is necessary for progress. Speaking about a bad experience is never slander — it is a request for accountability. From personal experience, formal complaints processes can expose people to further abuse, targeting, and retaliation, while still failing to resolve the original issue. If someone chooses ...

The important Conversations:

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We need more of these conversations! My answer: I work with charities and organisations and my advocacy and petitions but we need more teamwork. I find a lot of organisations are more about validation than community support - they're competing instead of amplifying the message by working together. I just finished an understanding domestic abuse course and I work in youth services and safeguarding children depts (unpaid) and we still need to fight to stop the unpaid roles disabled people are often left with and the 13% wage gap for those who manage to find paid work. The system is destructive in more ways than one, and until people start supporting genuine advocates and people> abusive ones with facades, we won't action much positive change. However - I'm proud that I action positive change and challenge what needs to be challenged, even if it's only small changes I manage to implement. I would also suggest the legalisation of pepper spray - having done my due diligen...

Still going, still learning, still smashing it:

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  100% accuracy – Japanese. 🙌🏻 Sarah Wingfield ❤️ #Duolingo #Japanese #StillGoing #Studies Kawaii Doll Decora  Alt text: Bright yellow Duolingo progress screen dated February 1. Text reads “I’m acing Japanese lessons with 100% accuracy!” A smiling green Duolingo owl appears on the right. Below, a section titled “Words I learned” shows white rounded tiles with Japanese katakana words: ネコ, ワニ, コ, ネン, フネ, イケ, フ, サケ, フユ, and ケ. The Duolingo logo appears at the bottom and KawaiiDollDecora.uk.  Words learned: neko (ネコ) – cat 🐱 wani (ワニ) – crocodile 🐊 ko (コ) – katakana “ko” (character sound) nen (ネン) – year (used as a sound element/counter) fune (フネ) – boat / ship 🚢 ike (イケ) – pond 🏞️ fu (フ) – katakana “fu” sake (サケ) – salmon 🐟 (also means alcohol when written 酒 — context matters) fuyu (フユ) – winter ❄️ ke (ケ) – katakana “ke” Still going. Still learning. Still smashing it. 💅🏻✨

Abusive relationship advice (from lived experience):

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Abusive relationship advice (from lived experience): Trauma bonding can feel like an addiction — because in many ways, it functions like one. The hot-and-cold cycles of affection and withdrawal create intense emotional highs and lows that condition your nervous system. Over time, that pattern starts to feel familiar, and humans are naturally drawn to what feels familiar, even when it’s harmful. This is what makes the bond so strong. It isn’t love — it’s emotional conditioning. The manipulation of emotions keeps you chasing relief, reassurance, and connection, while slowly eroding your sense of safety and self. Understanding this isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity — and clarity is how the spell starts to break. But the moment you break it, the chains fall away — and you finally see the truth: the version of them you were clinging to was a fantasy, not reality. You are worthy of real love, safety, and consistency. You cannot find someone who will truly cherish or worship you while you...

Watching Kindness Disappear:

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Watching Kindness Disappear: People have been acting a bit wild lately. There’s a noticeable increase in hostile group behaviour, and while it often gets personalised, the truth is that most of the time it isn’t about the individual being targeted at all. We’re living in a time where people are tired, overwhelmed, and stretched thin. Life is hard. Systems are failing. Support is inconsistent. Many people are operating in survival mode. And when that happens, patience and empathy are often the first things to disappear. Sometimes it’s something as small as forgetting to say “please.” Sometimes it’s a message written bluntly because someone is exhausted, neurodivergent, anxious, or simply having a bad day. Instead of curiosity or compassion, what follows is a pile-on. A jump. A snap judgment. A sudden assumption of intent that was never there to begin with. What I see, again and again, is people waiting for a mistake. Waiting for a slip, a poorly worded sentence, a moment of vulnerabilit...