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There Are No Vacancies for Abusers in My Life:

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There Are No Vacancies for Abusers in My Life: I get rid of one stalker, and another seems to appear. Cyberstalking and online harassment are becoming frighteningly common, and I am absolutely done expecting people who repeatedly violate boundaries to suddenly develop self-restraint or self-control. People who knowingly continue behaviour that causes fear and distress are responsible for that choice. Anyone newly fixated on monitoring, discussing or targeting me can remain obsessed if that is what they choose. It is strange, unhealthy and entirely their responsibility. I do not know most of the people who repeatedly watch or discuss me. I do not want to know them, meet them or communicate with them. That will never change, regardless of how persistent they become or how often they try to pressure me into unblocking or meeting them. Stalkers frequently convince themselves that everything another person posts must somehow concern them. They then invent explanations to portray their monit...
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Behind the Screams: The Work Nobody Sees Before a Film Exists:

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Behind the Screams: The Work Nobody Sees Before a Film Exists: When Peter King brought some ideas for a movie to me I put him in touch with Mike Davies and this movie script was born. People often watch a film and judge the finished product in two hours. What they rarely see are the months—or even years—of work that happen long before a single scene is filmed. One of my current projects with Mike Davies is The Scream Team Reunion. At the moment we're breaking the script down scene by scene, analysing every page to understand exactly what will be needed before we even think about crowdfunding. This isn't the glamorous side of filmmaking. It's spreadsheets. Prop lists. Location planning. Character analysis. Costume requirements. Risk assessments. Budget forecasting. Scheduling. Equipment. Special effects. Insurance. Accessibility. Contingency planning. Every single page of a screenplay has to be translated into practical reality. How many actors are in the scene? How many ext...
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Mr Flagman: the epidemic of entitled Men in Britain:

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Mr Flagman: the epidemic of entitled Men in Britain: 🎵 Listen to "Mr Flagman" – K•Doll x Mai 🎵 This is a mindset virus affecting entitled British men: Mr Flagman is a social commentary on harmful attitudes towards women and girls—stalking, sexual harassment, intimidation, entitlement, misinformation, mob mentality, and the culture that too often excuses those behaviours. It was inspired by lived experiences, but the message is much bigger than any one single person, it's a pandemic. These behaviours affect women and girls across the UK every day, which is why nobody is named in the lyrics. It's a behavioural pattern that needs correcting. The song is about a harmful mindset that women and girls should never have to accept. If someone publicly claims the song is about them, despite never being named or identified, they're making that association themselves—not me.  I personally, take that as an omission of guilt. The song describes behaviours, not individuals.   ...
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What Cyberstalking Looks Like in 2026:

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What Cyberstalking Looks Like in 2026: Guess I must have reached #CelebrityStatus now I have my very own exclusive obsessive fan club. 😅 Apparently, I live rent-free in a lot of people's heads. *Opens popcorn.* 🍿🤣 What have I supposedly done now? Honestly... I lose track. That probably sounds ridiculous to anyone who hasn't experienced sustained online harassment, but unfortunately this isn't directed at just one person anymore. There are multiple people who seem to spend a bizarrely unhealthy amount of time watching me, reposting or redistributing my original copyrighted work without permission, talking about me, and making me the topic of conversation, with hope they'll get attention - and they are. If a general post makes someone feel personally called out, perhaps it's worth asking why... #cinderella #shoefits  Here's the simple part some people keep missing... I don't want your attention. I don't want my name in your posts. I don't want my na...
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High Force Waterfall: When Accessibility Is About More Than Ramps

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High Force Waterfall: When Accessibility Is About More Than Ramps After the email I received today, I have made the difficult decision that I will no longer be visiting High Force Waterfall while I remain disabled. That is not a decision I wanted to make. I love nature. I love our countryside. I believe disabled people should be able to enjoy these beautiful places just as much as anyone else. But I also deserve to be treated with dignity when I do. The outcome of my complaint has left me feeling that I am simply not welcome there as a disabled visitor. What upset me most wasn't just the original interaction itself, but that, after a formal investigation, I was left feeling that my experience had not been properly understood. This experience was never about wanting special treatment. It was about wanting to be treated with basic human respect. Before anyone had asked why my partner was carrying a foldable chair, it was refused. Before anyone knew it was a disability aid, assumption...
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Biggest Myths and PIP:

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Biggest Myths and PIP: One of the biggest myths I keep seeing is that disabled people have to look disabled. Apparently, if you're not permanently in a wheelchair, visibly struggling every second of the day, or fitting someone's stereotype of disability, you're somehow not "disabled enough"—especially when PIP is mentioned. No. I live with hEDS/EDhS (as I was told), POTS, chronic pain, osteoarthritis, AuDHD and other conditions. Some days I use a walking stick. Some days I need my wheelchair or my foldable chair. Some days I grit my teeth and push through because life doesn't stop just because my body wants to. My disability doesn't magically appear the moment I pick up a mobility aid. It was there long before that. The walking stick doesn't make me disabled. The wheelchair doesn't make me disabled. PIP doesn't make me disabled either. They're simply supports that help me live with disabilities I already have. I've spent over 20 years a...
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Foodvisor:

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Foodvisor: One month. One stone. 🎉💚 I'm so proud of myself! Living with AuDHD, EDhS, POTS and chronic pain means consistency can be incredibly difficult. Executive dysfunction, pain, fatigue and fluctuating energy levels can all make healthy habits much harder to maintain. That's why losing 1 stone in a month feels like such a huge achievement for me. 🥹👑 I've been using the Foodvisor app to help me track my food, stay accountable and make more mindful choices. It's really helped me build healthier routines without feeling overwhelmed. This isn't about perfection—it's about improving my health one step at a time and celebrating progress, however big or small. If you're on your own health journey, keep going. Every positive choice counts. 💚✨ Sarah Wingfield ❤️  Actor • Author • Advocate  KawaiiDollDecora.uk #WeightLossJourney #Foodvisor #HealthJourney #AuDHD #Autism #ADHD #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #hEDS #POTS #DisabilityAwareness #Neurodivergent #SelfC...
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