There Are No Vacancies for Abusers in My Life:
There Are No Vacancies for Abusers in My Life:
I get rid of one stalker, and another seems to appear.
Cyberstalking and online harassment are becoming frighteningly common, and I am absolutely done expecting people who repeatedly violate boundaries to suddenly develop self-restraint or self-control.
People who knowingly continue behaviour that causes fear and distress are responsible for that choice.
Anyone newly fixated on monitoring, discussing or targeting me can remain obsessed if that is what they choose. It is strange, unhealthy and entirely their responsibility.
I do not know most of the people who repeatedly watch or discuss me. I do not want to know them, meet them or communicate with them. That will never change, regardless of how persistent they become or how often they try to pressure me into unblocking or meeting them.
Stalkers frequently convince themselves that everything another person posts must somehow concern them. They then invent explanations to portray their monitoring, harassment or abuse as justified.
It is not.
You cannot claim to be defending yourself from posts that do not name, identify or concern you.
I removed older posts at the end of May because I did not want to give anyone who had become fixated on me an excuse to continue targeting me. It made no difference. The monitoring, public commentary, false claims, third-party involvement and attempts to arrange unwanted meetings continued.
Some people have also copied posts that I wrote while emotional and distressed about being harassed. I removed one of those posts within four minutes, yet copies remain on other people’s pages without my consent and are still being used against me.
A brief emotional response to ongoing harassment does not justify preserving, redistributing or weaponising someone’s words indefinitely.
All I have done since then is preserve and log the evidence.
That is the point: the excuses keep changing, but the unwanted behaviour continues.
This is not really about me. It is about entitlement, including the belief that women who refuse access, attention or contact should be punished, intimidated or publicly targeted.
There is no justification for repeatedly monitoring, naming, threatening, sexually harassing or targeting someone who has clearly stated that they want no contact.
None.
I genuinely wish some people were capable of self-reflection. I wish they would stop focusing on how to justify their behaviour and instead consider the fear, distress and harm their actions cause.
I am done seeking accountability from people who repeatedly demonstrate that they do not respect boundaries or basic human dignity.
I do not need anything from them. I will continue living, creating, healing and existing in my own way, regardless of how much anyone attempts to threaten, intimidate or obsess over me.
I stand proudly against bullying and abuse. When people claim otherwise, pay attention to their conduct rather than simply accepting the story they tell about themselves.
This is a general statement about stalking and cyberstalking. I have experienced this behaviour from several individuals and have previously required police involvement.
Some authorities have taken the risks seriously, thankfully, while my more recent experiences have left me feeling unsupported.
Anyone who copies or redistributes my content to encourage further attention only reinforces the concerns I am describing. My advice to others is not to engage with such behaviour. Block it, document it and protect your boundaries.
I am trying to heal and remain positive in a world where some people feel entitled to target women and are repeatedly enabled to do so.
I recently obtained a court order for protection from the man who raped me. The last thing I need is for anyone else to attempt to take his place by becoming fixated on me.
There are no vacancies for abusers in my life.
I am completely valid in speaking about my experiences of abuse, harassment and bullying. Nobody has the right to silence me for calling out abusive behaviour.
I will always stand against bullying because I cannot tolerate people targeting others for attention, approval or popularity instead of reflecting on their own behaviour and building confidence in their own lives.
Sarah Wingfield ❤️
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