Discussions society SHOULD have:

- January 21, 2025

~ We should be having these discussions because when we overlook abuse we are condoning it ~

Holding a mirror up is sometimes the only way we can get people to see they are harmful and hating messengers of truth is never a solution, it's a deflection from the truth that also allows for the abuse to continue.

Brightleaf commented on the post about the fat shaming behaviour I was disgusted at and simply raised awareness of.

They stated: " safe space for everyone except the people you dont like ?

seems kinda like your trying to make it less safe for him i.e ( here's his profile and comments go bother him ) "

I responded: " @benedictdunington602

Holding a mirror up to maladaptive behaviour let's people know that that behaviour is not only unwarranted but it's also NOT okay. Don't mistake fact sharing as hate campaigning because I'm anti abuse period. It's a safe space for everyone but unnecessary hate or narcissists or abusers WON'T BE CONDONED or tolerated HERE. If that's more your idea of a safe space then you need to redefine your idea of safe.

He publicly hated on and belittled a woman for her weight with no idea about her as a person, as an independent disability advocate I can't overlook that even when people like you can and do and defend abusive tendencies or maladaptive behaviours. Don't you think his 'bigger' fans or plus size fans deserve to know the truth and that he hates them without justification? He's egotistical and abusive towards their appearance? Sharing information is for awareness purposes only.

This is NOT a safe space for evil doers, nor it ever will be.

I have bothered him on his comments and YT because what he said WAS NOT OKAY and if you had any sense or empathy or compassion, you'd defend women from abusive comments based on false narratives too.

Yet here you are condoning it and trying to manipulate the narrative to influence readers that my actual safe sanctuary is unsafe simply because I shine a light on the facts and truth. He created this content, I disagree with it and distribute it to ACTION POSITIVE CHANGE. Holding a mirror up to abuse.

He hates on people publicly, I uplift people publicly and defend those who deserve defending.

Her worth was never based on her weight and if you have an issue with what I have said then please go talk to a psychiatrist about it because I am ANTI -ABUSE and tired of people who spread the truth being treated worse than the people who behave BADLY by choice and publicly.

Deflecting onto me for SHARING BAD BEHAVIOUR for awareness purposes isn't an okay behaviour either because it makes you biased towards abusers and bullies.

Hate away if it makes you feel better but my morals aren't changeable even when detrimental to myself and I will always speak up and out against BULLIES, haters, trolls and THAT'S WHY I AM A SAFE SPACE. I USE MY VOICE TO CHANGE THINGS and when I see someone being abusive unlike you I don't run to their rescue to try and invalidate a messenger of truth, I fight AGAINST the abuse. Period.

Thanks for your opinion, but it is all it is because you don't know me and I don't actually hate people, I sometimes hate how they are and I challenge that so they step up and fix themselves when they're an issue, or I try and get them to. It has changed nothing and he needs to apologise to this woman. 💯🙌🏻

Bad behaviour needs a light shining on it because it is NEVER OKAY and if I'm hated or misunderstood for holding a mirror up and raising awareness to get people to THINK harder about what they say online, so be it. Take care.

I am proud to never be like those and never pull people down, only asking people to not say things when they want to be abusive because words are weapons and people carry them with depression until they eat away at them and they end themselves.

I will never be a part of any bullying even if you misunderstand and would like me to be.

A safe space means SAFE without judgement and an awareness to maladaptive behaviour so people can LEARN and grow and stop being cruel when there is no need. "

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Like I said at the start and I'm repeating myself for emphasis here:

~ We should be having these discussions because when we overlook abuse we are condoning it ~

We can't keep overlooking abusers.

We should be encouraging people to reflect and change how they are so they can understand when they're being harmful and become a better version of themselves.

It's never my fault when others choose to misunderstand me to fuel their own false narratives about me instead of trying to view it from MY perspective and understand that bad behaviours need fixing! People deserve better than abuse in modern day society. Period.

Sarah x

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My posts are for awareness purposes only, I don't condone abuse under any circumstances and I am ANTI hate campaigns. Thank you. ⚠️