RSD/Acceptance:
Having RSD almost makes you unforgiving to those who have caused you emotional pain especially beyond your limits. Betrayal can be deeply painful for anyone, but for someone with ADHD and RSD, it can feel like an overwhelming, unforgivable emotional wound. The combination of emotional sensitivity, fear of rejection, difficulty regulating emotions, and cognitive distortions like all-or-nothing thinking make betrayal feel like a personal attack on their self-worth. The path to forgiveness is the hardest challenge for someone with ADHD RSD and here is the reason why.
Memory and emotion are closely linked in the brain. The amygdala, which processes emotions, and the hippocampus, responsible for long-term memory, are highly interconnected. This means that emotional experiences, especially intense ones, are more likely to be stored as long-term memories and recalled with vividness later. In someone with a poor memory, the emotional aspect of an experience may remain intact even when the factual or detailed recollection fades.
When a person with ADHD has trouble remembering an event, the When someone with ADHD struggles to remember an event, the strong emotional response they experienced can act as a powerful anchor. Even if they forget the specifics—like what was said or where they were—the emotional intensity of that moment allows them to relive it vividly. These emotions don’t fade with time. For example, if I think about a time when I was deeply hurt by betrayal, I can easily tap into the same feelings I had in that moment. This emotional response triggers my memory, bringing back details I thought I had forgotten.
Forgiving in these situations becomes incredibly difficult because the hurt still lingers within us, constantly reminding us not to trust the person who caused it. The emotional intensity stands as a barrier, making it hard to open up to vulnerability again, knowing that it already failed us once. In essence, it's almost impossible to truly forgive when the pain never fades. You won’t ever see that person the way you once did, and you’ll naturally build a wall of protection whenever they’re around, guarding yourself from further harm.
(Taken from a RSD page)
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