Inside the mind of a neurospicy:
Inside the mind of a neurospicy:
I used to be so hard on myself, just did not understand why I couldn't simply DO something, why I froze in place waiting for people to visit for appointments and not able to function or focus on things that needed to be done prior to the appointment.
Now I understand executive dysfunction better, I understand how I can be viewed negatively and misconstrued and I remember that it's only my responsibility to clarify myself and it's not my responsibility to deal with negativity or hostility others choose to put my way instead of talking things through.
People will misjudge you and instead of being sincere and clearing up the misjudgement they will use that as an opportunity or an excuse to be negative themselves. That's their choice and their actions and wrong of them but nothing whatsoever to do with you.
Let them think you're the villain, most people in modern day society are incapable of looking at their own actions, holding accountability.
They find it easier to blame you, let them.
That is NOT your weight to bear.
When people shout at me now, I walk away.
Very rarely do I try and de escalate anymore, sometimes my compassion wins however and I do try and resolve things, despite of what negativity has been thrown at me. Some are worth it, and you find are overly emotional and some take the pee. Everyone and everything is a lesson.
If you're unsure if someone's antagonistic or problematic, or whether they are just struggling and emotional, it's ok for you to take the time and make the space to see.
What negativity is said about you is not a reflection of you, it's a reflection of them projecting onto you.
If you are still hated in the end and they turned out to be another problematic individual or antagonist, then atleast you know for definite so you can block or avoid them. Their hate is their own to carry.
If they turn out to be authentic and struggling then they will own things that they did and things will get resolved, so it's still all good.
I no longer hate on myself, for being disabled or different either, I simply understand myself better and only allow room for people who are worth my time, and by that I mean sincere, authentic people, people who grasp that life is hard and we have a responsibility to ourselves and others not to try and make it any harder.
People who are not unnecessarily unkind.
Misunderstandings happen, how they're resolved is ALL that truly counts.
Some will be your people, some won't.
Inside the mind of a neurospicy:
I used to be so hard on myself, just did not understand why I couldn't simply DO something, why I froze in place waiting for people to visit for appointments and not able to function or focus on things that needed to be done prior to the appointment.
Now I understand executive dysfunction better, I understand how I can be viewed negatively and misconstrued and I remember that it's only my responsibility to clarify myself and it's not my responsibility to deal with negativity or hostility others choose to put my way instead of talking things through.
People will misjudge you and instead of being sincere and clearing up the misjudgement they will use that as an opportunity or an excuse to be negative themselves. That's their choice and their actions and wrong of them but nothing whatsoever to do with you.
Let them think you're the villain, most people in modern day society are incapable of looking at their own actions, holding accountability.
They find it easier to blame you, let them.
That is NOT your weight to bear.
When people shout at me now, I walk away.
Very rarely do I try and de escalate anymore, sometimes my compassion wins however and I do try and resolve things, despite whatever negativity has been thrown at me. Some are worth it, and you find are overly emotional and some take the pee. Everyone and everything is a lesson.
If you're unsure if someone's antagonistic or problematic, or whether they are just struggling and emotional, it's ok for you to take the time and make the space to see.
What negativity is said about you is not a reflection of you, it's a reflection of them projecting onto you.
If you are still hated in the end and they turned out to be another problematic individual or antagonist, then atleast you know for definite so you can block or avoid them. Their hate is their own to carry.
If they turn out to be authentic and struggling then they will own things that they did and things will get resolved, so it's still all good.
I no longer hate on myself, for being disabled or different either, I simply understand myself better and only allow room for people who are worth my time, and by that I mean sincere, authentic people, people who grasp that life is hard and we have a responsibility to ourselves and others not to try and make it any harder.
People who are not unnecessarily unkind.
Misunderstandings happen, how they're resolved is ALL that truly counts.
Some will be your people, some won't.
Never dwell on anything too long.
The present is continuing and you have other things and other goals to focus on.
Life has taught me many things and we are all still learning, every moment.
So don't let it be a waste, take your lessons and carry them, evolve, grow, choose to be better.
We only owe it to ourselves to create a life for ourselves that we enjoy.
We can't change others but we can change ourselves and what we choose to focus our mind on, if you focus on negativity a lot then your outlook may be biased with negatives, if you focus on the positives and practice gratitude, "what is this teaching me?, What can I do to change this or make it better for myself or others?" Instead of "why me?" Can make all the difference.
Words we use to ourselves hold power too.
Remember that.
Speak kindly to yourself and allow yourself the pain of facing the things you get wrong and your failings, there's strength in owning it and accountability, it builds you stronger, teaches you more and makes you tougher and more resilient.
You are worth your own efforts! ❤️✨
Sarah Wingfield Author 🌹
