'Kind' doesn't mean 'doormat':
Positive people are not ignoring the darkness... and they are capable of putting their foot down, which is a big misconception about positivity and kindness is that people have to remain kind and be a doormat to tolerate abuse, and that's not the case.
It doesn't make them unkind to say NO to mistreatment, but it makes those who support mistreatment unkind.
Kind people know we are capable of being unkind too but we prefer to be around people who don't disrespect us or abuse our kind nature or who bring out the unkind or negative side to us.
We've endured so much we have no interest in enduring more and we are allowed to say no to bad behaviours and yes it's personal when we ourselves would never dream of treating another the same way as we get mistreated.
Our morals aren't interchangeable and we can't be bought, we are very capable of both bad as well as good but prefer to focus on remaining patient and kind and open minded.
We will use our claws and defend ourselves though if people think we're an easy target or won't hold themselves accountable for the ways they choose to treat us, especially if it's bad.
We make mistakes and we fix them.
Others hate on us and make mistakes and don't fix them and get defended, its good they have a support network but real and genuine and kind people only want authentic support, so that kind of behaviour is also useless to us.
We don't want to be supported all the time and have smoke blown up our butt, we seek authentic and genuine people who will point out when we mess up so we can fix it, we prefer that to tirades of blind support that only seeks to excuse bad behaviours because the person they're defending is 'useful' to them.
It doesn't matter who someone is or how useful they are, if they behave in an abysmal manner that's their choice, and if people want to defend the poor behaviours that's also another choice, but we have a right to make our own choices to keep our actions aligned with our morals and stay authentic.
If we're hated so be it.
If we're supported it's appreciated, but make sure you're supporting people because of what they stand for and not just cause you gain something from them.
You would never tolerate disrespect from them directly so it's still not okay for you to tell others to as you support their poor behaviours.
Our town will only work if people work together and stop making enemies of strangers and people they don't know, stop attacking people without clarification and stop being aggressive and impatient and thinking you're above everyone to the point you can mistreat your fellow Newtonians.
Whether it's me or others, none of us deserve it and we are allowed to say NO to any abuse and aggression. Period.
Sarah Wingfield Author
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