Self advocacy:

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Today, I cancelled my home decluttering support — not because I didn’t want help, but because I needed to honour my mental health needs.

Negativity and hurt can become a prison, and people don’t always understand how deeply that sabotages everything.

I’m having a hard day. I need to process, to cry, and to stop things from escalating into a mental health emergency — especially with my AuADHD, disabilities, and PTSD.

Our conditions impact us. I’m taking a proactive approach, and if that means losing a service or support, then so be it. I’m done begging the world to adjust and being punished for doing what I need to stay safe and healthy.

I will be okay. I just need to cry and rest — maybe even sleep again — to calm my nervous system.

Other chronically unwell people will understand this: we are constantly punished for our needs.

Today I say — let them.

I will comfort myself. I will look after myself. And I won’t apologise for advocating for my own needs.

And I hope I inspire others to advocate for their needs too.


Sarah Wingfield ❤️ 

Independent Disability Advocate 


#disabilityinclusion #strongertogether #disability #disabilityawareness #disabilitysupport #disabilityrights


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“The cost of chronic illness isn’t just physical.

It’s losing friends and family.

Losing time.

Losing dreams.

Losing pieces of who you used to be.

Losing hobbies.

Losing jobs.

Losing stability.

All while being shamed for not ‘staying positive.’”




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