Abusive relationship advice (from lived experience):

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Abusive relationship advice (from lived experience):



Trauma bonding can feel like an addiction — because in many ways, it functions like one. The hot-and-cold cycles of affection and withdrawal create intense emotional highs and lows that condition your nervous system. Over time, that pattern starts to feel familiar, and humans are naturally drawn to what feels familiar, even when it’s harmful.

This is what makes the bond so strong. It isn’t love — it’s emotional conditioning. The manipulation of emotions keeps you chasing relief, reassurance, and connection, while slowly eroding your sense of safety and self.

Understanding this isn’t about blame. It’s about clarity — and clarity is how the spell starts to break.

But the moment you break it, the chains fall away — and you finally see the truth: the version of them you were clinging to was a fantasy, not reality.

You are worthy of real love, safety, and consistency. You cannot find someone who will truly cherish or worship you while you’re tied to someone who runs hot and cold — an onion partner who keeps peeling layers and leaving you in tears.

If you stay, it doesn’t improve. It escalates. The space gets smaller. The suffocation grows. The trap tightens.

Those shackles aren’t permanent. 

You can remove them at any time.🫵🏻❤️🎯

You just have to remember who TF you are! 💥


Sarah Wingfield ❤️

Independent Disability Advocate

Lived experience.


Director: Letstalknortheast.org

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