When hate is loud:
There’s something I’ve noticed lately.
People are supporting me. 🙌🏻
They’re just doing it quietly. Discreetly. In disguise.
Private messages instead of public comments.
Anonymous reactions.
Support behind closed doors instead of standing beside me in the open.
And I understand why!!
When hate is loud 💥
It doesn’t just target the person speaking — it intimidates everyone watching. It teaches people that visibility equals risk. That if you show support publicly, you might get dragged into the chaos too.
So they protect themselves.
They support from the sidelines.
They whisper encouragement instead of declaring it.
They stand with me — just not where it can be seen.
And that says more about the environment than it does about them.
When hostility becomes performative and judgement becomes a sport, people adapt. They survive it. They move strategically.
But here’s the truth:
The fact that support has to wear a disguise proves the problem isn’t me.
Safe spaces shouldn’t require camouflage.
Yet even in disguise, support is still support. And I see it. I feel it. I appreciate it.
One day, it won’t need to hide.
Sarah Wingfield
Independent Disability Advocate
#DisabilityInclusion #StrongerTogether #DisabilityRights #DisabilityAwareness #EndAbleism #SafeSpaces #CommunityMatters #Advocacy #Inclusion #BeBetter
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