Real Support Matters:
Real Support Matters:
You’re Safe With Me.
I reassure — I don’t judge.
I don’t victim-blame — I uplift.
I listen, and I keep things confidential.
Compassion isn’t optional when working with vulnerable people — it’s essential.
If you offer support, make sure you’re truly capable of providing it. Don’t reject people after inviting them to open up. Don’t blame them for reaching out when you’ve said you’ll be there.
Too often, I’ve seen people in support roles do the opposite:
Instead of reassuring, they victim-blame.
Instead of listening, they gaslight, manipulate, or twist narratives.
Instead of protecting trust, they breach confidentiality.
Instead of admitting their limits, they hide behind policies, dismiss people as “too complicated,” or make decisions they have no right to make.
Here’s the truth: it’s not hard to be kind. If you can’t help, say so — and signpost to someone who can. That honesty is far less harmful than pretending, failing, or shutting someone down.
If you encounter someone in a support position who behaves this way, protect yourself. Complain if you can — and walk away if you need to.
Because every person seeking support deserves safety, dignity, and compassion.
Sarah Wingfield
Independent Disability Advocate
#RealSupport #RealListening #Realhelp #inclusion #support #professional #ConfidentialityMatters #reassurance
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