Try to listen to understand:

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I just had a lady claim to be open to discussion to just use judgement and assumptions to change my reality to fit how she wants to see me, as soon as I allowed the space for the discussion.


This is why communication fails and positive change gets halted prior to being actioned.


They would rather correct your reality on how they feel it could be than accept it for how it is.


If you want discussion, discuss but stop invalidating people's experiences to dictate because that is technically hate which is what she was ironically arguing about.


Not everyone who disagrees is hateful no, but plenty are.


Facts can't be changed no matter how bad you want them to be.


We need to focus on solutions not dictating or invalidating or changing another's reality to feel superior or create an enemy where none exists.


I responded with some potential solutions so we can only see if that's 'heard' or misconstrued further.


Understanding is EVERYTHING.


If you can't believe someone who can back up their claims with evidence, then you don't have to but to use that assumption to fuel an ulterior agenda instead of providing solutions isn't helping anyone.


Just saying.


Sarah ❤️



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