Anti-Social Media:

Anti-Social Media

So many of my online friends are abandoning Facebook because of the hostility, abuse, and sheer toxicity that has become normalised.

As someone living with dynamic disabilities, I completely understand why they feel they need to do it. I've been targeted myself. But it's heartbreaking when you've known people for years—people who were there when you were isolated, housebound, or bedbound—and they're effectively being bullied out of the spaces where you stayed connected.

Many disabled people don't have large social circles in real life. Illness, disability, caring responsibilities, trauma, and accessibility barriers can make social media a lifeline rather than a luxury.

That's why it's so disheartening to watch amazing people leave because they are exhausted by constant hostility.

I've reported threats of violence, hate campaigns, targeted harassment, and posts designed to incite hatred. Too often, nothing happens. No action is taken. No meaningful consequences are issued.

Yet creators and people with monetised pages can find themselves penalised over minor issues, misunderstandings, or incorrect reports.

The priorities don't always seem balanced.

You can pay for Meta support and still feel like you're talking to a wall.

I advocate for people. I support community. Walking away isn't an option for me because too many people need help, information, and a voice. But that doesn't mean any of this should be accepted as normal.

Women are criticised for behaviours that men are often praised for. Abuse victims are told they deserved what happened to them. Online mobs appoint themselves judge, jury, and executioner with little regard for facts, evidence, or humanity.

Social media doesn't have to be like this.

We need more people who uplift, support, educate, encourage, and challenge wrongdoing without becoming abusive themselves.

What people don't always see is that even on my worst days, when I'm struggling myself, I'm still trying to help others.

So there really is no excuse.

No excuse for bullying. No excuse for harassment. No excuse for hate campaigns. No excuse for cruelty disguised as accountability.

Get better hobbies. Do something kind for yourself or someone else.

Whatever you do, don't be a d!ck.

Because when social media stops being social, all that's left is anti-social media.

It's really that simple.

Sarah Wingfield ❤️

#KindnessMatters #StopOnlineBullying #DisabilityAdvocate #MentalHealthAwareness #CommunitySupport

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A square digital poster titled "Anti-Social Media". The design is split into two contrasting halves. On the left, a light background features colourful icons and positive messages encouraging kindness, support, respect, and empathy online. On the right, a dark background shows speech bubbles containing insults and negative comments, representing online bullying and harassment.

In the centre is a theatrical mask split in half: one side bright and decorated with flowers, smiling gently; the other side dark, cracked, and frowning. Below the mask, a pair of hands holds a glowing heart displaying the words: Kindness, Empathy, Respect, Compassion, Hope, and Love.

The poster includes the messages: "Be Kind," "Be Supportive," "Be Respectful," and "Be Human," alongside the phrase "Choose kindness. Choose better." At the bottom, large text reads: "Be part of the solution, not the problem." The website KawaiiDollDecora.uk and hashtags promoting kindness, anti-bullying, disability advocacy, mental health awareness, and community support are displayed. The overall theme highlights the contrast between compassion and online toxicity.