Kindness...

Kindness...

My ex-abuser was handed court papers yesterday.

At the same time, I find myself suffocating under the weight of other people's judgement, assumptions, lack of fact-checking, and lack of compassion.

And honestly?

I'm tired.

Can we have some kindness back, please?

Because behind every profile, page, blog, business, group, and public post is a human being.

A real person. 🙏🏻✨

A person carrying things you may know nothing about.

You don't know what someone is facing behind closed doors. You don't know what battles they're fighting, what trauma they're processing, what legal proceedings they're navigating, what health issues they're enduring, or how much strength it took for them to simply get out of bed that morning.

Yet so many people seem comfortable judging, criticising, gossiping, and piling on without ever stopping to ask whether they're being fair.

As someone with ADHD and autism, I feel things deeply. Disrespect, dishonesty, false allegations, hostility, and cruelty don't simply bounce off me.

They stay with me.

I analyse them.

I replay them.

I carry them.

That doesn't make me weak.

It makes me human.

What hurts most is seeing abuse excused, enabled, or supported while those who are struggling, speaking up, or trying to protect themselves become the target instead.

The world feels backwards sometimes.

Despite everything happening in my private life right now, I still show up for others. 💪🏻❤️

I still advocate.

I still support people.

I still create spaces where people can feel heard. ✨✨✨

I stay kind.

Because I believe kindness matters.

And that's why I struggle to understand why so many people are willing to withhold it.

There's no excuse for cruelty.

There's no excuse for targeting vulnerable people.

And there's certainly no excuse for abandoning compassion in favour of judgement.

So if you've made it this far, please remember:

Fact-check before you assume.

Listen before you judge.

And choose kindness whenever you can.

The world desperately needs more of it.

❤️

— Sarah Wingfield

#KindnessMatters #ADHD #Autism #MentalHealth #ChooseKindness #DisabilityAdvocate #TraumaRecovery #SupportNotHate

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"Just my opinion but I think it's harmful to judge people with ADHD and Autism for their reaction to disrespect and lies instead of supporting them."

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